Posted by strikeeagle on October 17, 2000 at 08:26:38:
In Reply to: Re: "Confianza" (Cohn-fee-AHN-zah) - Confidence, trust posted by KRICO on October 16, 2000 at 23:10:07:
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RickFeliz, You are SOOOOOOOOOOOO right. This is exactly why I mentioned earlier that it would take some time for people to trust again, and why those who continue to dredge up past digressions are SO harmful to our new community. Krico, I believe, you are wrong about expecting an 'immediate cessation of hostilities'. If we all would take notice of the posts that TJ Hombre has removed, we might notice a common theme. Our host has clearly stated that he will NOT allow things to get out of hand with personal barbs back and forth. And, he is slowly enforcing that general policy. It seems that there is a VERY small sub-set of posters here, who are, for whatever reason, unwilling to socially move on and adapt to the new spirit that is being born here. This is not being a Pollyanna. Rather, it is an expectation that as adults we can keep our personal differences in check and still enjoy the rich value that this community brings to us all. As I said in an earlier post, if this forum were a club or bar, where each day a bunch of guys got together to shoot the shit and exchange information about their hobby, we'd be closer, IMHO, to what the vast majority of members of this community are looking for here. In that dynamic, someone who constantly walked into the bar and interrupted everyone to bitch about what this 'past member' said, or used to do, they would slowly, and politely be ignored by some people. This 'freeze out' would become stronger and stronger, until one day, a member of this group of friends would tell the 'bitchy guy' that he was no longer welcome in this group. I believe that this is what TJ Hombre is attempting to do. Our host is allowing everyone to vent and 'get it out of our systems' for a short period of time, before he begins to enforce the standards of behavior that are going to be expected by the members of this community. For the first week, or so, pretty much everything was allowed, and left on the board. Now, TJ Hombre is killing posts that risk spreading into flame wars. He is being selective, and is not killing whole threads, just certain posts. As things mature, and as the standards of behavior are solidified and publicized, I expect that the post removal will continue, with the addition of comments or warnings to offending posters that the removed post was, in the mind of the board host, out of line. (a gentle warning) If the behavior continues, I'm expecting that the warnings will become sterner. And, in the end, it's possible that TJ Hombre may have to ban someone who just gets totally out of line, or can't seem to adhere to the spirit of this community. (though I expect that banning will take some time and several warnings) We, as members of the community, have an obligation to enforce the spirit of behavior that we wish to have here. This means that we must all live to that spirit and the level of behavior that we seek to have within our community. It means, not posting personal attacks. It means not posting over and over again about something that someone else posted that pissed us off. And, it means accepting responsibility for what we post, and expecting others to do the same. If each member of the community would focus on his own behavior, and lead by example, TJ Hombre would never have to post any rules, because the community would be policing itself. And, with personal self enforcement of the expected code of conduct would also come "confianza de mejor" (the best of living in trust) (BP feel free to correct my grammar here |
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