Posted by RickFeliz on March 06, 2001 at 22:58:17:
In Reply to: Re: Wit' respect, brother, you disagree because... posted by Ritmo on March 06, 2001 at 18:00:22:
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After reading your response I agree that much of our analysis is similar at the functional level. We're just using different words. Of course, I know that I don't have an exclusive contract with the harem. As Curious said a while back, renting is much cheaper than owning. "...after about an hour or so of havin' ta listen to 'em yak, and just about all of 'em, including zona chicas, will definitely yak, I just want 'em to leave me the fuck alone..." Major difference in our goals and experience. I'm fascinated by the conversations I have with my amiga especial and the glimpses into another culture and another world. After listening to her strategies for the job, I'm beginning to suspect that she's one of the smartest people I've met in my life, so far. I've definitely learned incredibly valuable things from her about relationships. If she'd been born in the United States instead of Mexico, she'd probably won scholarships for a university education and a professional career. It's more than physical and emotional compatibility. It's also mental - I enjoy her mind and the way she thinks. I'm also highly impressed by her values. She's done a great job of setting priorities and accomplishing her goals. She doesn't need rescuing. She's demonstrated the ability to start from a very poor background and wind up successfully taking good care of herself and her family in a country that doesn't have the opportunities that we do. Sometimes she reminds me of Sally Stanford, the San Francisco madam that went on to opening a successful restaurant in Sausalito and was eventually elected mayor of the city. "Pullin' in data from other cultures don't change the facts that, in THIS culture, guys who are untameable in the monogamy department are defined as a social problem, and psychologically abnormal..." By who? At what age? I would say that it's at least equally possible that our culture is psychologically abnormal. There are cultures where a man is expected to go through 4 stages of about 20 years each. 1-20 as a student, 21-40 as a "householder", 41-60 as a forest dweller, and 60-80 as a wise man. Your definition of normal is only the householder stage from about 21 to 40 when a man is expected to marry, have kids, and raise them. I'm beyond the householder stage and hold the view that for me to remain in it would be "abnormal". The culture we happen to be born in only holds as much power as we're willing to give it. There are human universals across all cultures that define human nature and then there are arbitrary rules defined in a specific culture. And the two things are different! It's one thing to be in the culture and another thing to be of the culture. Regards,
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