I thought I should make a formal post on this issue.

I just mentioned in another thread that one-time I made the mistake of letting a chica in Panama know my real name. I was naive...I thought what harm could come of it as she was almost 2,000 miles from my real-life? (What a mistake I made).

When in Panama I met this non-pro...I fucked her over a period of a few nights. She seemed to be a pretty nice chica, spoke English pretty well, and she was smart. I thought I'd stay in touch with her via e-mail and cell phone...simply because I wanted to fuck her again when I returned to Panama...turned-out she became a serious and credible threat to my real world life outside of mongering.

All she had was my first and last name, my cell phone number and my Internet e-mail address. Between fucks she and I chit-chatted and I let her know I lived near San Antonio Texas. Since she was a non-pro, I told her that I was divorced to help entice the GFE.

I never figured that this chica would become a threat?

Within a few weeks she called me and told me that I was a big liar! She told me that I was married and what my wife's first, middle and last name was, where and when we bought our house, how much we paid, how much we pay in taxes, and the names of our nearest neighbors and their phone numbers! Wholly shit...this chica had all kinds of shit on me!! I thought I was a dead man for sure.

Obviously I became very cooperative with this chica and apologetic...but I also engaged her in conversation to learn as much as I could what she actually knew. She had a bit of an ego, so I fed her plenty of compliments that she really was pretty sharp to learn what she learned so that she would reveal to me how she got this info. She did it through the people search engines offered on-line, then she started digging.

But, I also did my best to convince her that I actually was divorced and the data she was looking at was dated by a few years...I think this one thing helped prevent her from contacting my wife.

Anyway, for the next couple of weeks I did everything that I could think of to sanitize my and my family's available information on-line.

Fortunately, my wife let me know the password to her Internet e-mail address...I entered her account, then scolled down through all of the blocked SPAM e-mail addresses...and somewhere in the middle I modified a previously blocked e-mail address to this chica's e-mail address. Then just in case this chica used a different e-mail address to contact my wife I went in and embedded a block that would filer out key words from any incoming e-mails...all e-mails that my wife recieved that had the word "Panama" and/or the words "husband, married, or divorced" would be automatically deleted.

Then I put blocks on all of our standard home e-mail addresses...just in case this chica got this info.

I contacted Yahoo and Hotmail and requested that all associated search information for me and my wife be removed and protected...it's been a while since I did this, but look around in the Yahoo and Hotmail websites...there are links where you can do this for your own information.

I made our home telephone unlisted. I made all telephone bills (cell and hardline) electronic and accessible only through the Internet...then I changed the password to only a password I know, plus requested an additional "secondary" security password...I don't know if this is really helpful, but I'm confident my wife cannot easily access this info...since the phones are in my name only.

Then I did additional searches on mine and my wife's name to see what information I could find. I did everything I could to get this information deleted and/or buried.

However, the fact that this chica had my neighbor's names and contact information was very scary...to this day I always wonder if my neighbors have ever been contacted. Believe, me...for month afterwards I was just waiting for the hammer to fall...but it never did. This all happened a little more than 2-years ago.

Today I can search my name and my immediate family member's names and most of my information is very dated...old addresses...but I have no doubt if someone has a credit card they can dig a whole lot further and really cause some misery.

Therefore, take a lesson learned...when mongering never give a chica your last name...realize that if you fuck her in your hotel room...she may be able to return later to get your real last name and passport number. Therefore, when I pick-up chicas I typically take them to a hotel where I do not sleep...for an ID I use a photocopy of my passport with my lastname smudged enough to make it unreadable...so these hotels get my first name and since they cannot read the lastname on the photocopy...they use my middle name as my lastname instead.

Those of you who monger...married or not...you all need to get out there and start doing Internet searches on your name to see what pops-up...do it now and start cleaning up your traceable info.

If anyone has other good ideas to clean-up traceable electronic info...please share.

AJ

AJ
On a recent trip to Rio I had some traveling Business cards made up, although my purpose was to get around in a country were I didn't speak the language the cards would have nipped any internet problem in the bud. They only had my travelling Cell Number, my dedicated monger E Mail address and my name had been changed to protect the innocent. It was funny, because they where printed and looked good no girl ever questioned the content.

To all:

What AJ is mentioning is of extreme importance, especially if you are married and want to keep fucking these girls abroad ( keep fucking "a Broad".......does anyone else see the humor in that?!).

Anyway, much of this stuff is Academic. If you are not already set up in such a way that your name is taken out of your major assets, and you control them without ownership, then there will always a risk your true name will be on someone's mailing list or in some computer database you would much rather not be on.

The easiest way that doesn't cost anything is to set up an alternate identity using SKYPE. This is a telephony (tele, and phoney! Hey, thats another one! ) program that enables you call your chicas or oriental pleasure mates at a long distance for pennies on the minute. As well, you can talk for free with anyone else that has the program.

And the best thing for me, is that you can enroll in their SKYPEIN program. This enables you to get as many phone numbers as you like in whatever area code. You set up a mailbox and can be Jim Shorts or Buck Naked if you want to. Your main SKYPE address also shows only the name you give it; there is no ID process necessary. So you can use this as a home number for chicas and simply get back to them.......you are only at home to answer the phone when your computer is on and you are doing whatever work; which if you are like me is often during the day.

Another good thing about SKYPE is that it is encrypted; caller IDs show up with this add arrangement of numbers that is virtually untraceable......

So, tell em you are James Bond, you live in Miami when you live in Cleveland, and that you are a Real Estate heir when you sell hedge funds out of your living room in your PJ's. Unless you want to get serious with the girl and you begin to get closer, this works well. If you do decide to let her in more, then you can just say that James Bond is what your buds used to call you in college, and this is what you go by. Your real name is Harry Swartz but nobody calls you that anymore!

My X-Novia would CONSTANTLY look through all my shit to dig up stuff on me and discover things. I go by the name my parents gave me, and the one that is on my passport. But essentially I am no where to be found either on the internet or on public record. If you have not learned how to do this (an extended process that takes a few months to learn), then measures like hiding your passport, drivers liscense and other things with your real name on it are a must. You can also use your first name, or some 'nick" name similar to your first name if they want to see your ID, and then simply pronounce your last name differently and tell her that is how it is spelled, if you can.......you would be astonished how often this works with girls that do not speak good english anyway....I know, duplicitous, but.............you know the deal if you are married for over 10 years.

Remember, one of the wisest pieces of information I have ever learned is the simple old faithful, "HELL KNOW NO FURY LIKE THE SCORN OF A WOMAN." Women are the original proverbial double edge swords; one day your muse, the next your worst nightmare............

Anyone else with advise on anonymity? This is a very important topic, especially in todays computerized world where privacy is becomming a thing of the past.

SP

Gentlemen,

Wow, I'm blown away by all these revelations. Thank God I've chosen my women wisely! After all, none of us would want one of these women calling or showing up on our doorstep, would we?

Guess I'm lucky with Miss Bubble Lips despite all the shit I get about her. When we broke up for five months last November, all she did was put a voodoo hex on me that caused some of my hair to fall out.

Then I met Hep "B," which was like dropping me into hot grease. I hate that fucking Bitch and I hope she goes back to Brazil sometime soon. I've only seen her once about half a mile from my house and I'm sure she never saw me. At least I think she didn't.

Yeah, everybody listen to these guys, they're obviously smart. Okay, now spell out how to minimize public records, please. I already use SKYPE-IN and have utilized it exclusively till MBL innocently asked for my cell phone number, which I gave to her. Hep "B" pulled the same stunt on me but with my home phone--fell for that one too. Clearly I need help.

Jag

I can cure all of these problems just make sure you get a pen and pad because this is an extremely complex situation. Ready? Don't give a hooker in a foreign country your real name. If you slipped up don't despair, it costs $15 to change the cell phone number and always have your home phone unlisted. Like Arnold said, "you've just been erased". In an extreme case like Hep"B", I would just have a close female friend call her and say,"leave my fucking husband alone don't ever call his phone or my house again or I will have you arrested for aggravated harassment". That should do the trick gentlemen, my consulting fee is 3 Skols at my favorite terma. If any of you refuses to pay I will have Isawal take you on a trip to Soweto.
TRW

Alecjamer you might want to check your info at www.ZabaSearch.com

You MUST opt out of ZABASEARCH and can do so with a simple email. info@zabasearch.com

SP

For you Rio mongers, another word of advice - put as much false info as possible on those hotel registration forms. They go to the Policai Federal, and although not accesible to the general public, there ARE ways to search through those... as I found out the hard way. You won't be able to fake your name (the desk clerk will check against passport), but you can and should fake your address, telephone, etc. If you bring a girl or five back to your room, they'll have to register too.. but on a separate card from yours, so the only thing that will link them to you is the room number. If it matters to you (it does to me!) then give the desk clerk some "enticement" (monetary or otherwise) to have them registerd to a DIFFERENT room, so you are untraceable. Again a lesson learned the hard way.

To recap - every time you register at a hotel (and even some "moteis") in Brazil, you have to fill out a registration card with the federal police. Ditto for any "guests" that stay overnight. As opposed to the good old days (when the cards where sent to Brasilia to sit in a locked cabinet never to be seen again) the information is digitized almost immediately and stored in a central database. ANY POLICE OFFICER in Brasil has access to that database (again, as opposed to the good old days when the Federals didn't share their info). So how hard is it for a determined American detective (for instance) to bribe a police officer to do a database lookup for him?

Or in my case, for my brazilian wife to call her best friend and ask if she wouldn't mind asking a favour of her cop ex-husband (DOH!) ??? I had the foresight to put down a fake address, etc, but "BadSeed" is a pretty unique name. Then when she saw 5 girls registered to my room over the course of 3 days...

Solution (at least for me) is simple - now when I travelin Brazil I let my WIFE book my hotel room so she knows exactly where I am and doesn't have to go running to her gf.. and then I bribe the hotel clerks and/or fuck the girls ONLY in motels and/or at friend's houses, or whatever. NEVER register them to your room! Preferably, don't even take them there....

In general, everytime you give out info whilst mongering - beyond "Hi, my name is Bad" - assume it'll come back and bite you in the ass. So plan accordingly!

Good luck...

BS

Paying cash at termas never looked better

Best word of advice to those not married. When you do marry, get a prenup and if she finds out at least you'll keep your stuff.

My novia knows that I am separated, it takes 6 months to get divorced in California.

My novia knows my last name. I didn't tell her, she saw it on some paperwork in my room.

We'll see where this goes. I no longer give a shit if people know what I do. I can tell you that it is empowering.

I would agree with the doper baby ( catacony ) that CASH still is king, and not traceable , like all your plastic cards !!