Picked this up off the web:

Woman to man: "That's a beautiful tie."
Woman to woman: "I have to know who does your hair."
Man to woman: "You couldn't be any more ravishing."
Man to man: "Beer Nut?"

None of these people knew each other before the evening in question. Some were single, some married. One of the women was wearing open-toed shoes and a dress with a neckline that plunged nearly to her navel. One of the men was slowly sipping a vodka martini. Another man was recently made CEO of an Internet juggernaut and was flashing a very expensive watch.

Question: Which of these people were flirting?

Answer: Who knows? Maybe the tie-lover was actually a fabric designer in the market for inspiration. Maybe the woman desperately needed a bad haircut fix. Maybe the man was making up with his own wife after a hurtful argument. The "Beer Nut" guy could have heard the growling stomach of the stranger next to him -- or he could have been trying to strike up more than a conversation.

If there seems to be much confusion surrounding the flirting issue, it's no wonder: Everyone's got a different definition of what it is, how it's done, and exactly when it's appropriate. Some people have a hard time distinguishing friendliness from flirting, while others decide whether a behavior is one or the other based on their level of attraction. Some say flirting should be banned from the workplace and should be avoided by anyone in a committed relationship. Others, who see flirting as harmless fun, look at life as a great opportunity to turn on the charm.

The man encourages students to master the three A's of flirting: attitude, approach, and action. The right attitude, he says, includes a willingness to flirt with reckless abandon. "Be open and friendly with everybody," The man says. "Flirt in the supermarket, at the laundry. If you give everyone a chance, you'll get to know and like a lot of people you wouldn't have thought were your type."

As far as approach goes, if the idea of making the first move causes you to cringe, at the very least be sure you're approachable. You can do this simply by smiling. Make eye contact. Make sure your body language says you're confident by keeping your head up, chin up, shoulders back. Then smile some more. "Most people don't realize how unapproachable they are," the man says. So if you want to flirt and be flirted with, send some signals already!

Finally, there's action -- something that eventually you will have to take. "As a noun, 'flirt' is pejorative," says The man. "But as a verb, flirting is harmless, necessary fun. It's the first step in getting to know someone, and nothing more." If you're painfully shy, your call to action might be simply getting out of the house and exposing yourself -- not literally, of course -- to as many people as possible. With practice, you'll grow more comfortable in social settings, until eventually you'll find yourself asking probing questions and tossing out compliments like so many Frisbees.

Interesting article. Although flirting in TJ is not strictly necessary (you can walk up to most working chicas and just ask "how much"), it does make just about any transaction more sociable and fun.

Recently, two afternoon chicas came up to me at the bar in AB. We introduced ourselves. She said, "My name is Monica......Monica Lewinsky." She then rubbed her tongue all over her lips. I told her, "Y yo soy El Presendente Clinton. Chupame." They burst out laughing. Just inconsequential small talk, but it was a real icebreaker and we had a good time in the bar.

I'm no expert on Mexican culture, but I get the sense that overt flirting may be a bigger part of Mexican culture than here in the U.S. I was at a nice restaurant in TJ for dinner recently. At the next table, two fortysomething ladies in elegant clothes and expensive jewelry were having drinks. The waiter came up to see what they needed. The chica facing me took an ice cube in her mouth, puckered her lips so part of it was exposed, and held her head up so the waiter could take the piece of ice out of her mouth with his mouth, which he did. Then she laughed and asked him if he wanted to fuck her. (My ears perk up whenever I hear the verb "coger" in a conversation.) "You want me to fuck you?", he asked, like he couldn't believe his ears. "En la boca", she replied. Then the two ladies laughed and laughed while the waiter kind of stood there sheepishly. Although it apparently was just saucy flirting, you can imagine that these two ladies got excellent service the rest of the night from an entire squadron of waiters.

Jesus! What the hell is the name of that restaurant? I gotta go eat there. Better yet, maybe get a job as a waiter!
A.

Well, I wouldn't call it flirting….

The other day at AB, I had a chica lay on the NASTIEST hard sell I've ever heard! I had done her a couple of times before and I knew she could get pretty nasty. But, I still couldn't believe what I heard. After I put her off a couple of times she comes back with "Oh baby, you know I'm good for you. You fuck my ass you come in my mouth!" Then the music dies down and she doesn't adjust her voice fast enough. So, all of a sudden she's yelling "NO CONDOM, NO CONDOM!". Then she starts back with "You like my titties. You fuck my titties and come on my face". This went on for a long time.

I knew from experience that she was serious. But, hearing it actually turned me off. I ended up spending the rest of the afternoon avoiding her.

... AND when Mr. Shadow was missing (i.e. upstairs) she bugged his friends asking, "Where's mi esposo? WHERE'S MI ESPOSO?"

The Senator

She actually said to me, Shadow is my esposo but you could be my boyfriend. Talk about being stalked at AB. Shadow you are an ANIMAL!

Cityog

"Talk about being stalked at AB."

Yeah, No shit!

After lunch, I hooked up with another chica that likes to latch on to me. We joined Valentino who sitting at a booth with his "Chica du Jour". Then no matter which way I looked, the first chica was glaring at me. I had visions of "Fatal Attraction" running through my head. I had to get upstairs, quick!

Yup and quick it was!

I remember Shadow joining us at our table with his favorita. We ordered some refreshments and got all aquianted but as soon as I left to the bathroom and came back He and his favorita was gone!
Man talk about "rapid rewards"
By the way thanks for the drink.

Valentino

AAAH! Valentino used the "F" word about me!!

Favorita? Moi? I've got to pull myself together!