I was recently introduced to Adelita Bar and my life has gone to hell. I take extended time off so I can camp out in San Diego in the day time and venture off to Sin city at night. It seems as if I have a double life and have been transformed into this obsessive sex-driven thrill seeker. The girls, all shapes and sizes, are there to please ( for a rather small fee ). I was happy with this until I meet Maggie. Words can't describe how I feel when I am with her. I know It's good business practice to complement your tricks, telling them how handsome and thoughtful they are, but I truly believed Maggie when she tells me these things.

When she laughs, I really believe that I was funny. Sex was great and I never thought anything less of it eventhough it was bought. I fear that all good things will come to an end, but for now, going Adelita to see Maggie is the best danm thing in my pitiful life.

Donkeylove,

Welcome to the club!
Enjoy as much as possible if you say it will end.

Valentino

donkey-please email me
scotty71349@hotmail.com

Donkey

If it's the same Maggie I know, I can see how you'd be impressed with her sincerity. I don't think she's that great of an actress. Try taking her over to Hotel America for a great time.

Shoot me an e-mail

Donkeylove
One suggestion,don't mention her name again.

Welcome to the Hotel TJ, you can check out any time you like ,but you can never leave.

Go to your local Barnes and Noble or other bookstore, self help section, there are books on sexual addiction that will help you gain insight into what you may be dealing with.

Why not, Specific.
I thought you guys supposed to share same chicas share same disease etc.

Fuck off JOker, you little bitch

Donkeylove, there are a few secrets to surviving this. So you know that I have some experience in this area, see my recent post under "To Favorita or To Not Favprita"

Maintain some perspective. It is her job to make you feel good. She is doing a good job! She may still be sincere in her comments. She may have feelings for you. You will never figure this out. Don't even try to figure it out. I spent 2-3 miserable months trying to figure out whether my amiga really liked me. I only got peace around this question when I focused on if I like being with her, does it make me feel good, and does it bring me pleasure. The answer was overwhelminhly YES.

Get or keep some balance in your life. It is OK to go a little overboard once in a while. But, if this is effecting your job, your other relationships/friendships, or your life in general, put yourself on a diet. A couple of times, I have come close to out of balance. I have gone on once a week diets and even on a 2 week diet. This is really important. I must keep my work and other important things in life, in balance, before I let myself spend time with my amiga. My amiga is the reward for being in balance. If I didn't do this, I might go down to TJ and not come back (at least until the money ran out).

It is OK to love a working chica but don't fall in love with a working chica. I hope this makes sense, because it is damn hard to explain. I finally admitted a few months ago that I love my amiga. But, I'm not in love with her. I would do many things for her, but I would not damage something else in my life for her or for the relationship.

It is very possible to have a rewarding relationship with a chica. It is also very possible to damage your life. I hope this helps.

Cuidado!

I have to admit that I have a favorita, one that has returned to Sinaloa. I sometimes send her $$ (but not too much), and call her a couple of times a month.

I have no illusions as to what (or who) she is doing in my absence, but when I take my semi-annual vacation to Sinaloa, she serves as my tour guide and wife/GFE, and I stay at her place.

Not a bad deal.

Of course, I can't trust as far as I can throw her, but as long as I take precautions, things are OK.

To all fellow Mongers
If anyone sees a gentleman 45,spanish looking,grey hair,5'6" 160lbs always nicely dressed,being pounded by one or more chicas will you please help him.I will make it worth your while.I expect this to be happening to me the next time I visit adelitas.I will be yelling mongers please HELP ME!!!You guys don't really know me but I know many of you were there on Sunday at the table near the men's bathroom. Who is the guy at the end of the table, you looked like a guy who would help me too.Can I count on you guys to help?

Donkeylove,
you don't know how many of us have (are) in the situation you desribe. I think every monger who doesn't leaves his heart at the borber can get into this situation.
I don't have a good answer to your problem, but from my own experience and what I heard from many guys, is that the mongerism goes through phases (steps):
You are in step 5 (step 1 = getting to know TJ, step 2 = realizing that fucking in the ZN is so much better than getting jerked around by strippers on Rev, step 4 = getting a full blown addiction to all the sex you can get at AB,CC, step 5 = losing emotional control and failing to keep the customer attitude, there are more, but I wont bother you with a lengthy post).
Since only one in maybe 1,000 of these "relations" advances over time, you will sooner or later see that you don't grow together, like in a "real" GF relationship. In addition many AB girls harden over time, which is almost inevidable given that they are pork-meat for 80% of their customers and simply lose a lot of emotional openness. They remind me of dysfunctional zoo animals and I hope I don't piss too many people off with this :-)
As someone earlier said, enjoy it as it lasts, but believe me you have a 99.9% chance to move into step 6 (BTW I am in step 7 :-) and don't know, if this program leads to bliss.
If you need more info E-mail me at mongerito@yahoo.com

Specific,

Against bandidos...no prob...angry AB girls? You've gotta be nuts!

when she stops taking $ for sex, you can say girlfriend and get serious.

Randall,

Some of the girls are smarter than that, they have ways of extracting your $$ without it being a case of money for sex.

Expolorer;

Yes - they are called "wives".

Explorer, I'm with you. Though the chica might not be charging for sex (one to one), they are still pumping money out of you and working. This is not a girlfriend- though it may lead to one. I think the girl has to show you something real- like quitting her job. At that point, even if you are helping her out, she is not gonna make the same kinda dough as she was working. For that reason, my opinion is while she is working, she is not a girlfriend. Of course, my opinion of girlfriend does involve monogamy (on both ends) so my definition might vary.
-Jose