I agree with AJ, I've been mongering for quite a long time and I've been taken before.

The key is to keep sessions to one evening. If they start bitching for money, just be up front and say that you are on vacation and thats it. If they persist, just push them out the door.

I spent a lot of time with a girl in Costa Rica some years ago and I thought for sure I was going to bring her back.

I had a friend in Costa Rica who is a Private Detective that works with the police in San Jose Costa Rica follow her.

I was devistated that she was still working.

If you want to fall in love, there are plenty of regular girls in Panama that you will have no problem hooking up with. Just go to the massage places when you need a fix.

Lets face it, these girls treat us like we are their one and only. I've never met a mongerer that hasn't fallen in love at least once.

You are not cut out for this life if you can't drop it and move on.

I was reviewing all of my old private e-mails to club members over the past 2-years. I came across this one as a response to an e-mail I got from a green-bean (this is not his club name) after he returned from his very first mongering trip in Panama.

In short, he met a beautiful whore and he was in love with her. He was going to send her money so that she could stop being a whore. He was considering marrying her.

This was my response to him...I think all of us periodically need to suck-in some air, clear the spell our penis placed on our brains, and think...

HERE'S SOME SOUND ADVICE GREEN BEAN:

Read between the lines you wrote.

She is beautiful. You are taken in by her. She is likely attracted to a couple things about you. You are an American. You have money. You appear to be on-the-market and available.

Yet, you know she fucks for money. You are pretty certain she fucks others for money. She has kids of her own...driving the need for more money. She has asked you to send her money.

Obviously you like her and you want to see more of her. That is okay. But, keep everything in perspective. What is her true motivation?

I think the more you see each other naturally mutual feelings will grow. But, I would give this one plenty of time before I would consider giving her money just for the hell of it.

I've met girls that I swore were in love with me only to learn later that they equally loved every man that knocked on their door. Some of these girls can be professional actors...they know what to say and what to do to give the appearance that they are truly yours.

Unless she has your kid, I wouldn't regularly send her money. Yes, it is okay to send her money for her B-day or Christmas as a friendly gesture...but, don't give her money routinely where she will come to expect it.

Also, remember that visiting a chica for one week of non-stop fucking every 3 or 4 months is not the same as fucking her everyday for the rest of your life. What would it be like to be married to her and bring her and her kids to the states to live? Right now you may think it would be glorious and you would be giving her a better life as her knight in shinning armor (maybe)...but, you have not seen each other non-stop for long periods of time yet. Being with someone for extended periods of time can be a much different experience.

If you already have little spats now...what will these spats turn into over a long period of time? Also, as she grows older...her looks and body will fade. You are a guy who obviously likes women...will your tastes in women begin to vary over time as your woman's looks fade? Believe me, I've become tired of fucking some women that when I initially fucked them I broke the most powerful nut ever! It is funny what time can do.

The girls I see long-term in Panama fuck for money. They know I am not going to marry them. They are happy when they see me cause they know they will get some money and a fun time. They fuck me very well and I enjoy their company. But, I would never send them money just for the hell of it.

Finally, let's kick the idea of marriage around. What is the institution of marriage...why was it created? I'll tell you...so a woman will fuck you and have your children. If a woman is going to have your kid...she wants a contract with you guaranteeing that you will take care of her and the kids.

I personally don't think people should marry just for the sake of being married. People who need to be married are those who want a full family atmosphere and long-term companionship. And yes, love makes it even better.

If you already have kids from a previous marriage and you do not want any more kids...then why get married? Just move in together and be long-time lovers. That way, if things sour...you can get-out without having to break the contract of marriage and pay a penalty.

Then, again, if you want to have kids...do you need to be married? Obviously, there are many single moms these days who get by alone...rarily do people get killed and eaten by wild animals anymore...women these days no longer need a "caveman" to fend off wild beasts. Why does a women need a husband...money?

Unless you are in a hurry. I would take it very slow and sample all of the chicas you can in Panama. Then start all over again, sampling them two or three times more. Then figure-out which ones you like the best...maybe 5 or 6 chicas out of the 30 - 50 chicas you fucked over the year or two...then you keep the best 5 or 6 in touch without them knowing each other...and you spend a couple days with each every time you go to Panama.

Always remember...there is always a woman out there that you could be happier with than the one you are currently with...keep chasing Cinderella to find the one that fits best, but when you find a good fit, keep her close, but find as many more as you can.

AlecJamer

Jeese! Hope the poor sap took heed of your advice and never married the bitch. I think I mentioned before I know of a guy who is an airline pilot and married a supposed X-whore from Panama. They now live together in Panama, and when he is gone for two weeks out of the month she is banging other guys for cash in their bed! Pretty sad; what is even sadder is that no one has told him.........I personally do not know him well enough.

Thanks again for adding to my "cure." I am looking forward to sampling the market on my next trip.

Steve

SP -

You may need to e-mail the photo to the tech support guys and let them post it for you.

If you click on "Help/Support" there is a way to contact them.

Honestly SP...thanks for the warning. In all honesty, if she is still as hot looking as you say, I would probably still be tempted to fuck her even knowing what you've told us. Except I probably wouldn't give her my real name, nor would I take her to my hotel...(maybe I'd take her to the house that other guy built for her and send him $25 for the use so he can get a little something back...just kidding...bad taste). But, then when I'm done...I'd try to high-tail-it out of there before she could charm me/con me out of more money.

I agree with you about what is acceptable and not acceptable behavior from semi and pros. I expect all chicas to ask for some compensation if it is a no kidding P4P business transaction. Afterall, she services you...you enjoy the servicing...now pay her accordingly for services rendered at the going and acceptable rate. In my mind this is okay.

However, when they target you to take more money than the "going" rate by pretending to fall in love with you...or making you feel sorry for her poor economic situation, when in fact she has 2 or 3 other guys giving her money for the same line of crap...then that is a con...a criminal act (especially when it turns into big bucks...which if this guy you mentioned built her a house, would be thousands of dollars).

I admire you for coming forward to warn others...there may be other club members, that as soon as they see her pic, will realize that she is bilking them of their hard earned money. If you can help prevent just one member from being victimized, then you did a good thing for the club.

Sorry for what happened to you. Now I wonder if I'm in the same damn boat with my novia.

A fundamental mongering rule is fuck 'em and forget 'em...move on. I wish I could learn to follow that damn rule.

AJ