Hey I'm a recently married monger and I miss the good ole days of nailing lots of chicas. my wife is from Colombia, she is beautiful, and great in bed.

BUT... I'm seriously missing my days of walking around and picking up some new pussy and the 3 ways and etc...

So my question is this. how does a married monger get away to do this; especially when they stamp your passport.

how do you make calls back to her on your cell phone without paying 2 bucks a minute and if you use a vonage and still have you rcaller ID show up appropriately.

has any married monger tried to have his cake and eat it too?

What are the boards thoughts?

Hey I'm a recently married monger and I miss the good ole days of nailing lots of chicas. my wife is from Colombia, she is beautiful, and great in bed.

You want the truth, you want The Truth? Let's hope you can handle the truth!
First, while dating, did you not weigh out the pros & cons of entering a monogamous relationship?
Second, why did you marry in the first place if you weren't in love to the degree required for a lasting commitment? [You did not mention if you loved her, only she's hot and good in bed]
Third, recently married, probably 6 months or so and you're already bored - you've got a serious problem!
Fourth, how do you feel about infidelity? If you're ok with it maybe the little woman would like some strange on the side also.
Fifth, I don't know a Latin woman yet that doesn't have a 6th sense when it comes to detecting their man is fooling around!
You have no valid reason to cheat on this girl -period
Oh, let's throw in #6: Divorces are both a pain in the ass and expensive.
This situation exists because your using two different heads. Step back and ask yourself what you really want, before things get wrapped around the axle. Everything has a price; single or married, brings out The Good, The Bad, and The Horny.

(Message edited by copperfieldkid on August 12, 2011)

CFK - You are kidding right? You don't think many mongers are in the same exact boat at Dave?

How do I feel about infidelity? I am perfectly fine with it, as long as it is only me doing it! My partner needs to be faithful..... :-) what can I say...

The answer to question #1 - Has any married monger tried to have his cake and eat it too - Hell yeah! Quite a few of my friends do, including my best friend. One of my long time friends, who has been married for more then 10 years, has a couple of side trips a year.

Q2: So my question is this. how does a married monger get away to do this; especially when they stamp your passport.

That one depends on sooooo many variables! What type of work do you have? If you are fortunate enough to travel for work, well then that is easy enough to fake. ALso, how suspicious is your wife? Can you lock away your passport in Safety deposit box? Do you often travel together internationally?

Q: How do you make calls back to her on your cell phone without paying 2 bucks a minute and if you use a vonage and still have you rcaller ID show up appropriately.

Again, depends so much on your wife - With some you can probably use Vonage mobile on your iphone (Like I do). I use calling over WIFI, and it shows my cell phone number and name just like a regular cell phone call.

Anyway, to me at least, this board is about as appropriate of a place to discuss such matters...I really do not care who approves of what I do or who does not!

The biggest advise I can give you, however, watch out who you trust with your travel plans and details. Some guys are so pussy whipped they tell their wives or girlfriends everything! In turn, this can get back to your wife.....so take great care in who you trust to share this information - only real friends, and preferably similar minded ones that have as much to lose as you! This one I have been burned on once with ex-girlfriend, never again!!!

Listen to CFK, after 4 wife's he has it down pat!

CFK has become a cross between Dear Abby and an old crank.

Last I'd heard, this is a board devoted to guys who like fucking whores. I hadn't heard about the code of ethics that excludes married men.

#1 Assume your passport will be seen by your wife. Thus, you need to come up with a plausible reason for your travel. Where CFK is right is that without a REALLY PLAUSIBLE REASON, your wife (being a Colombiana) will be suspicious. Good luck!

#2 Calls? Use Skype from your computer. No area code to show up. But see point #1 above. Assume she will know where you've been, so if you can't come up with a reason that she finds plausible, good fucking luck. The easiest way to get busted is to try to hide your travel destinations.

Yes, there are numerous married mongers on the board. They either come up with good explanations for their travel or have wives who no longer give a shit as long as hubby continues to pay the credit card bill. New wives rarely fall into this latter category

I'd guess that the odds are you'll eventually get busted. I know many married CH members who have been busted. Some ended up with costly divorces, some ended their hobbying days.

As the girls here in Bangkok say to nearly every question I pose to them, "up to you."

BD,

thanks for validating what I wrote, only difference is I didn't sugar coat it.

BTY, the common phrase "up to you" is pretty much world-wide. I'm confident they really don't give a shit.

Of course it is a dangerous game, but as already stated this is a mongering board....if I need moral advise, I certainly would not be seeking it here!

Actually in my opinion what seems to be the most dangerous for most married mongers is that along the line some hooker somehow manages to blur the line between mongering and the thought of a potential relationship. This causes the married monger to lose his bearings, became careless, start thinking stupid things, and most importantly start doing stupid things that almost always ends up in divorce, financially in trouble, plus most likely without the hooker for which all was sacrificed.

From a hiding perspective, a newly wed Latin bride certainly will make things a little more difficult...

Get a job with intl travel. Failing that take up bird shooting and arrange a trip to Argie for 5 days. Shoot one day and take photos of you in different shirts and play for 4 days.

Same same for costa rica only deep seas fishing.

Finally play in the USA. Extra coat is offset by no hotel or airfares.

In no case are you going to get a 10 day trip to mange as you used to.

Biggest risk is that you will lose interest in your wife.

Be careful my friend.

No, the biggest risk is that his wife finds out and divorces him. He loses his wife, a lot of his wealth, and day to day with the kids. She tells everyone he's out banging whores, which would piss off his family, friends and possibly spill over into his work.

Married guys who decide to monger take a large risk. It's as simple is that. Is getting some pussy worth the risks? The risk can be very small if you're smart, or it can be huge if you're not.

"Biggest risk is that you will lose interest in your wife."

-that threshold has been reached!

If he got married without a prenup, that will be the biggest problem.

With a prenup, it would cost something to get divorced, but he would not loose everything.

Of course, a prenup can be like walking through a minefield; If you do not live up to the letter of the prenup, you might as well not have one.

MM


MM

(Message edited by majormajor on August 14, 2011)

I can just see the next post: I've made a huge mistake.

It seems not difficult to find eager Green Card seekers who are pragmatic enough to accept unlimited philandering as just the cost of advancing their own life. Such marriages may not last forever but if you are going to fall into such a trap it would seem logical to negotiate the terms of the marriage and of the inevitable divorce up front.

Someone who already has a Green Card may feel empowered to demand fidelity and a high price for any deviation. Someone who has SHIT and only the flimsy prospect of a possible Green Card is probably still much more likely to be agreeable to less than perfect conditions.

The whole marriage thing IS a bad idea but if I ever did it again I could think of a half dozen candidates who would unconditionally accept my whore mongering. That would be the only way to go.

Men will never learn. Marriage is for guys that can never get laid and are happy with one.

Men will never learn. Marriage is for guys that can never get laid and are happy with one.

or

for raising a family

or

for green cards

Whenever I ask my buddies in private if they had it to do over again would they get married, they all answer the same way. " well, I love my kids but... fuck no! Men still have that caveman gene that drives us to fuck strange pussy.

Use a voip like skype or vonage chances are you are going to tell her you are in another country so that mode of communication is acceptable.

Travel for work. Make a brochure on vista print for some conference. Keep your story straight.

I am sadly going to have to agree with many of the above when I tell you, with a Colombiana you're just putting off getting caught. If you just got married and it ain't worth it look at a possible annulment or bite the bullet and get the divorce.

Loneliness sucks but midlife poverty is way worse.

Cheers