I got a few hours sleep, cleaned the apartment of all evidence, took out the trash, and took a cab to the airport to await the arrival of my Brazillian girlfriend, Iīll call her L. I had a few moments of despair the day earlier when I had called her and she was talking about not coming. This was after the big effort to get her a brazillian passport and buying her ticket on my last trip to Rio.

Whoever said that having a girlfriend gets you free sex is wrong ... while the sex may be free, everything else costs a lot more! However, I can say that thereīs definitely a difference in the paid GFE and the real thing, although I donīt mind a good act.

After L met me at the airport we stopped at the apartment and then went to an internet cafe-phone cabine place to have her call home and let everyone know she made it ok. She was very nervous and didnīt realize just how high the planes actually fly.

We did some shopping on Florida Avenue but couldnīt find any new black high-heel sandals that she liked. We ended up finding a good pair at Patio Bullrich mall, though they were a bit expensive. We also bought some new lingerie at a store there. It was ever bit as high a quality as Victoriaīs Secret, but about half the price. I had brought some stockings from Victoriaīs Secret with me as a present, which turns out to be a good idea because they are much higher quality than anything that seems to be available in South America.

We ended up back at the apartment, and L immediately showered and changed into a sexy nightgown. I showered and then we had a really nice reunion ... you have to love these girlīs way of making you feel like the priority. She knew she needed to take care of me before dinner.

We tried to go to Puerto Madero to visit a favorite bar called Chandon. First we had to walk the last few blocks because the police had all the roads blocked for a concert at Luna Park. Then we walked right by the place ... it had changed the name to Montoya, gotten rid of the cool drink menu, and just reopened two days earlier. We had a glass of champagne and then went to Sarkis (Cordoba y Thames) for arabic food.

After that, I had planned to take L to visit some pubs or discos in Recoleta. In the cab, she surprised me because she said ... Ļhow about a program garota for meĻ Needless to say, I was floored. I guess getting out of Brazil freed her of some inhibitions.

I could just see this was going to be trouble though. She is so jealous. Now I have been truthful with her ... that I saw a lot of girls last year all over the world. If I was going to take her to a club, there might be girls there that would recognize me. We had to layout the ground rules.

As we walked through Recoleta, I pointed out some places like Newport that have a lot of Brazillian program girls. But it was only 12:30, so still too early. We ended up for drinks at Blue Bay which I insisted on because I wanted to try to persuade her from the path she was on. I tried to tell her that she had too much wine and that she would regret things in the morning. She wanted me to understand that this was going to be for her ... and I wouldnt get to touch ... though she didnīt mind me watching. This was her fantasy not mine. I could get mine another time.

When I couldnīt dissuade her, I figured, ok lets take the plunge. We went into Madahos but even at 1:30 on a Saturday, the place only had about 20 girls and equal number of guys. I saw some of the girls from Playwoman there. I had to point out Emily (and explain that she was a problem, luckily Emily didnīt see me or at least didnt come over to talk).

At 2AM I convinced her to go over to Playwoman because nothing was happening. Playwoman was totally dead ... no one dancing on stage, virtually empty, and no show. There were maybe 8 girls there. Of course one of the waitresses recognizes me as Godfatherīs friend and says something. Oooops.

I explained that I hadnīt been in BA in 4 months, but I had 8 trips last year and had spent a lot of time in Playwoman. Then they started playing Brazillian music and L started dancing. Every guy in the place was watching. However, there was going to be no action here.

So we left about 3AM. I tried to get L to call things off and use an internet girl the next day or something. She was insistent, so we went to Newport. The only table available was in the very front. The DJ was playing Brazillian songs and L was immediately up dancing. A cute little oriental girl at the table next to us got up and started dancing with L. They hit it off big. I end up talking to the oriental girls date ... turned out he lives in same part of the states as I do ... and was leaving the next day. We ended exchanging numbers with the girl. L danced until 4AM. One guy even sent her flowers. Every guy in there was jealous that I was with the hottie who could move.

Then when we were leaving, I was ready to go home. L was insistent ... she wanted a girl tonight. I told her to wait to make contact with the oriental girl the next day, but she insisted. So we ended up driving to Cattos and Ness. Both places were closing. I told L that there was one more place I knew of that was open late, but if she didnīt find anything there we were going home.

We went to Salome where ... the doorman greets me with a big grin and your back! That earned me another look that could peel paint from L. Guess what ... they were playing Brazillian music. L was dancing up a storm. I didnīt see any particularly cute girls, but a few that were acceptable. L focused on one that was sitting with a guy who had a whole bottle of champagne. Damned if she didnīt snake the girl away from him. Agustina seemed nice, but quiet. L had me talk to her and explain what she wanted. I negotiated the price and then told L that she better have some time for me when she was done.

I couldnīt get L to leave. Even though everything was negotiated and set, L wanted to dance. She danced with the doorman and other girls there. Finally, I told her that I was leaving because it was 5:50AM and I walked out with Agustina. The doorman had to go in and extract L. We piled into the cab and finally headed back to the apartment.

At the apartment we lit some candles and broke the ice. The girls had some drinks and showered. They got started while I showered. Apparently L had a good time, but she was done and sending the girl home (despite the negotiation for 2 hours) when I got finished with the shower. Damn ... how could I miss it. Both appeared satisified and L was all over me. Once I got rid of Agustina real fast.

Then I got the tears and the amor. She wanted me to promise that i would love her for my whole life. I couldnīt and wouldnīt say it. That necessitated a deep conversation. Needless to say, she wasnīt in the condition for such a conversation and I wasnīt either. I explained that we had only met 3 months earlier and I wasnīt ready to commit to anything at all. I was really confused by the whole evening and that we could talk later. She was still trying to tell me something when she fell asleep. Oh well, so much for the orgasmo....

In the morning we had a good talk ... followed by an incredible bunda session, a first with her. There is still a lot to work out ... but I appear to have dodged and indefinitely delayed the committment bullet for a while.

We will just have to see where this goes! More later

WOW! I'm glad things turned out for you. I was very very nervous for you when my Rio girl called on Friday telling me your girl called her asking if she thought she should go to Buenos Aires. I'm glad she made it.

Sounds like you're having fun but be careful. These girls are looking to be rescued. I've already gotten the "do you promise to love me" questions from my Rio girl and I've been honest with her. The only thing you can do is be honest with them. I'm still not sure how smart it is to bring one to the USA and have her stay in my house with her. Oh well. We'll see how this experiment goes.

Also, UW is right. Free isn't free. I've said it before and I'll say it again. Having a girlfriend costs more than hobbying.

UW...good thing you dodged crazy Emily in Madaho's. She has a good heart but has serious problems. Was it Mariela in Playwoman? She's a sweetheart. If you see her again tell her I said hi and I'll see her in May. Also, don't buy any clothes/shoes in Patio Bullrich. That mall is the most expensive mall probably in all of Argentina. Stick to Unicenter which is a way's out but much bigger and cheaper.

Good luck.

UW,

Nice story, thanks.

I have a non-pro friend who I have known for almost three years. I have spent a hell of a lot more on her than I have for any of the pros.

Thanks again,

Moondog

That's the best example of a womans thinking in a
short story that i have read for a while.
God love their addled little hearts.Not to mention
our confused little brains.
I guess things worked out in Rio.

TN

hey UW

i really appreciate you writing so frankly about your experience.
sounds like she has a classic alcohol problem for one thing.
hope it works out ok. having gotten involved myself beyond just the superficial level, it is always interesting--epecially since so many people will joke you about the idea of having a relationship.
so anyway, thanks for this installment.

slicey

1) Sarkis: Excellent restaurant! I go there whenever I can and the only drawback is that you eat so much and drink so much "anís" (anise liquor) that afterwards is difficult to cruise for girls.

2) "Special" women clothes: Usually, the best place to bring a woman for cheap lingerie and exotic high-heeled shoes is the Once neigborhood. I remember a famous store called Tops in the corner of Corrientes Av and Azcuénaga St or COrrientes and Paso St.

3) Brazilian community: There is no significant Brazilian community in Buenos Aires, although some of them gather in some places. Ask the Brazilian consulate in BA for addresses of Brazilian restaurants and bars.

4) Some Internet girls do trios, and some people do swingers (there is one swinger bar close to 1000-1500 Directorio Av). That may work for your friend and you.

Hope this helps,

Andres

I debated a long time about even posting this at all, because it is a bit personal. Afterall, L is someone I care about ... just not sure how deeply at this point. The most interesting thing about this relationship so far has been the honesty level. L understands my lifestyle, my current commitments, and I can speak with her about things I have never ever told anyone else, much less a woman. Those are definite pluses.

On the other hand, the relationship is moving awfully fast and I have needed to slow her down. Iīm not doing anything fast and really actually am focused on a career-life transition. I donīt need the complications of a relationship right now and wasnīt looking for one. However, I am not willing to say tchau to one of the sweetest people I have ever met.

L is very willing to experiment with new foods, new places, new activities, etc. But she has never travelled, is not particularly sophisticated, nor highly educated. She is decently intelligent and I never seem to struggle to have a conversation with her (except over the language). If I had to analyze it intelligently, she probably wouldnīt be my type. However, anything more than physical rarely is uncomplicated. I just donīt know that it would ever work. Iīm not looking to save a garota either, even if she is deserving.

One of the most important tests for me has been spending the night. If I canīt sleep comfortably with a woman, then there is no possibility of the relationship working out. I need to have a level of trust in someone that lets me relax enough to sleep. Thatīs never been an issue for us.

I appreciate the supportive comments and the ideas. There is a small Brazillian community in Flores, but that part of town isnīt particularly safe though I have been before. We are just enjoying Buenos Aires for what it is, but she definitely prefers Brazillian music.

Oh well, loving life and South America (especially garotas)!