Once I returned from CP2, I called my Bangkok girl to come over and go out. She showed up about an hour later looking extremely hot in a red dress made of Thai silk. My heart was beating fast. I was very smitten by this girl. I wanted to take a picture but it did not seem appropriate. I decided, instead, to grab a condom and prop her up against the dresser while I do her from behind with her clothes and my clothes still on. ( a big turn on for me) We cleaned up a bit and talked about where we should for our last night together.

We started out by going to the Living Room on Sukhumvit. This place is very nice inside and has a lot of comfy chairs and couches. They have a chill out room in the back which reflects a mini-movie theater with large couches as seats. The waitress told us that we could request certain DVD's if they had them. I asked if they had Jimi Hendrix at Woodstock on DVD...they did. I explained to my girl that Jimi was a legend and she remembered seeing his memorabilia at the Hard Rock in Pattaya. Once he started playing the "Star Spangled Banner". I asked her to stand up and place her hand over her heart. She seemed confused but I explained to her that this was the most emotionally charged rendition of America's Song. Hey, if I'm going to stand up for the King before a movie in Thailand, she better stand up for Jimi. ( I could go on for days about how that song was important, considering the state of America at that time but that's for another board).

After a while, we went to the trendiest bar in Bangkok...The Q Bar. This place has the most extensive and expensive selection of drinks in Thailand. Very modern furniture and strikingly beautiful waitress'. I have never seen so many well-dressed beautiful women in my life. It was kind of nice to see people of the same age going out and enjoying themselves. My girl and I were probably the only mixed couple in Bangkok that were close to the same age. This bar usually wins "best bar" in Bangkok Metro's annual awards, along with Tapas Bar in Patpong area.

We then dropped by Jools Bar and had a drink. The place was dead and not that festive. I came up with the idea that we should head over to Nana Plaza to check out the ladyboys at Cassanova Bar. I felt safe with another girl there. It enabled me to check out the spectacle without fear. I think that most of the ladyboys wer a little to obvious and they looked kind of pissed that I brought a girl to their bar. I went to restroom to relieve myself and two ladyboys followed me in. These were the only two ladyboys that looked like girls. They decided to shock me by going to the stall and whipping out their dicks to take a piss. They gave me a devilish grin. They were trying to advertise and started flirting with me in the bathroom. I was in shock. I was afraid I was going to get my ass kicked if I offended them, so I just ran out the bathroom and took my girl with me. I told her the story and she started laughing her ass off.

Next bar was "The Warbler". This place had an all Thai band singing American cover songs. Pretty good menu, so we ordered some Indian food. Went back to the hotel and had multiple sessions. I was exhausted and slept well. In the morning, we went to breakfast and started talking about how we were going to communicate with each other while I was away. It was a tough conversation. I didn't want to make any false promises yet I really wanted to keep in touch with this girl. We decided on e-mails and occassional phone calls. (I e-mail her every day now and call her 4 times a week).

I bought some more Thai learning tapes and some t-shirts. We went back to the hotel and I started packing. She seemed to be taking it pretty well. I guess she was used to sending guys off. She seemed more emotional and honest than all of the girls I met in Thailand (both bar girls and non-bar girls). We had been together five days and three nights after our original night together and she refused to take any money. I offered money as a gift, but she refused. To her, I stopped being a customer after the first night. This was confusing and rather odd to me but it was also very refreshing. We did one last heated session before getting my luggage together. I got dressed fast after sex to avoid any emotional scene. She then asked if she could go to the airport with me and I was glad she asked. Most punters have always stated that a punter should never go to the airport with a bar girl as they will only ask for money...this one did not.

We sat in the airport and we were pretty quiet as we knew the inevitable was soon to come and I was unsure how I would react to leaving a girl on the other side of the globe. As she went to the bathroom, I placed 5,000 baht I had left over in her purse. She avoided work to be with me and I wanted to give her a decent gesture, although I should have given her more.

The time came for goodbyes. I hugged her and said goodbye. As I pulled away, she grabbed me tighter. I could hear her sniveling and feel her tears on my neck. My eyes were swollen but I did not want to let her see my emotions and I did not want to carry these emotions back with me to farangland. She looked up at me and said, "Don't forget me, na? I wait for you." As I head over to pay my departure tax, I looked over my shoulder and waved to her one last time. Tears were welling up in my eyes. It was the beginning of the Post-Bangkok blues......I could not stay away for long, as I return April 2. The end of the Beginning....until the next book.

really enjoyed reading your report..
The scene at the airport as you said good-bye really touched a few strings for me.. It brought back a lot of bitter-sweet farewells for me..But it is so much better saying goodbye that way then storming out of the divorce court.. But as soon as I finished your report, this post of moondog came right to my mind.. Decided to repost it..

""""I just had a long discussion over dinner tonight with a beautiful girl from BA. This very subject came up, and even she said for the guys to stay away from the pros for marriage.
The three rules of Ricardo, the owner of www.platynum.com.ar

1. Basic English in their add means that they know how to say $200, and "your hotel"?

2. Once an escort, always an escort.

3. Never date an escort more than three times. More than that, they start asking for thing additional things. You can keep a friendship over time seeing her once in a while, but keep your distance.

Take your friend into your jacuzzi with about 8 BA girls, and see how fast he wants to stay tied down with one.

Moondog """"

Now if I could only learn to follow that 3 date rule...
treeshark
PS== looking forward to reading about your trip in April..

Blazers Don't think a bar girl is any different than any other Thai girl. She may well be sincere although that would be a rarity. I believe you have seen enough to have good judgement and if you really think the girl is being honest with you- trust your judgement. I have heard many bar girl lines and new what they were. I also ended up marrying a " good " Thai girl who had never seen the bars and brought her back to LA. Once here it was a never ending series of money wires back to LOS for various familiy emergencies and to " buy " a house so we could live together in Thailand in the future. Eventually she got her US citizenship ,a healthy divorce settlement, and EVERYTHING that went back to LOS as it could not be touched by US courts . This is not to scare you but to say just be careful with any Thai woman. They never leave their families.

Khun Mor, I think you should be posting this message for Drewwho.

Yeah, I know d'Art...
There is one difference - I know how important family is and we've already talked about it. I even volunteered to make a "family" line-item in the monthly budget with no prompting on V's part.
I also plan to do everything possible to move to Thailand full time within 5 years max. 2 is my current target.
Still, after 2 1/2 months, V has yet to ask for a single thing from me.
I guess time will tell...

drew

Khun Mor, post your message for EVERYONE. Spending money on the girl and perhaps her family is part of the requirement to get into her "inner circle" and I spend more than most. But once you fall for the belief that "this one's different" you open youself up to getting hurt-bad. I don't have a problem with Khun's experience- hell any American bitch could have done the same thing to him. But one should never assume that "this one's not in it for the money" or "I don't need a Prenup," etc. etc. Whether the girl is from a low-class or high-class backround, every one of them wants something from you (more than just companionship with a sexy hunk who's a great conversationalist and real fun to be around.) And I've also met several girls that never asked for a penny but still got paid accordingly. I think the nicer girls have one of two rationales for not asking for money: (1) if they don't ask for money then they can look themselves in the mirror and 'honestly' say they're not whores, and/or (2) they realize that they'll get more money for longer periods of time by "accepting" tips and handouts, rather than begging for money for the family. Everyone I know always says they're turned-off when the girl asks for money, but they're astounded when she does'nt. The next line is usually something like "I gave her a hefty sum just because I was so happy with her and she never even asked for a penny." Some girls are a bit more sophisticated and just know how to play the game better.

Drew time will tell is THE key phrase. My ex-wife never asked for anything when we were in Thailand.The first 6-8 mos in US were also heaven. Things slowly changed after that. Small requests first, then spiraling upward. If I tried to stop it I heard "don't you trust me ? I'm doing this for our future in Thailand " Thai women as you well know -have the knack of being able to manipulate you and push all the right buttons to get you to agree to almost anything after a while. Anyway the point of my story was that just because your honey is or was a BG she is no more or LESS trustworthy than any other Thai woman. Just be careful and make sure you really know her character before commiting. I found out that the 6 months the INS gives you on fiancee visa is too short to know what you are getting into.

I think it's unrealistic for mongers whom are older(50's) and/or very overweight to have grand illusions that a young, hot Thai girl is into the falang because he has a good heart. If your relatively close in age and you don't normally have a problem getting girls in the states, then your expectations are more realistic. There is no magic pill to make women think your attractive and this applies to foreign women as well. If they have no attraction to you, then you are no longer jai dee when the money runs out. As long as the girl thinks she has the upper hand, then she will milk you dry. If she thinks your a catch, she will be cautious and realize that you could drop her in a minute for something better.
I also agree with Maverick that a prenup is a must and if any of you need a prenup, I'm a family lawyer....lol