I thought I'd revive this age old topic.

I've been banging the same AB chica outside of the zone, even at my house, weekly for over two years. Even though I'm totally mellow with my bachelor life there seems to be some innate drive to be monogamous. So, what do I do? - See her every week, get do know her deeply, travel with her, and look to her for friendship when I'm down, and company when I want to party.

What does she do? The same, sort of, maybe/likely faked.

Fucking putas, pinche women.

I need to change the status quo, it's boring, but I don't want to burn any bridges, she's a great fuck, guapa, and muy tranquila. I like her. I like her too much, and that's the problem.

I need to back off, and I am. Just wondering how many others are in the same boat and whether or not you've explained these feelings or just mysteriously change the routine without an explanation.

I prefer to do the latter.

There's some real tough aspects to having relationships where the primary language is not the same.

There's some real tough aspects to having relationships where the chic's work is prostitution.

Put them together and you have a real head scratcher.

But you know something, I'm getting fucked every week by the best there is, and have a good friend, and in the big picture, it's a good value.

Thanks for listening.

This is truely an old topic, but always new again:
1) If you only want her as favorita:
It was an old problem of mine, that favoritas get boring sooner than regular GFs. Often we get into routines with favs, which get established early during the commercial relationship. One has to simply break through this. The chica will not take initative since she is most likely happy the way she makes money with you.
Either drop her, or surprise her with new sexual desires, new activities. If she gets moody or difficult, you need to get rid of her ASAP.
2) If you are, or may be in love (want more from her):
Man, you are in deep shit. I have dated a girl from AB after she left the business and know I could never stand any girl working as a puta while I am in love with her.
I salute every many who can deal with this, but I would die if I knew my girl would fuck other men...
My only regular ZN hook-up is a fav from CC. She realized long tiem ago that she will only keep me around if she spices things up and actually started to surprise me with new stuff (BBBJ on the beach etc).
I don't love her never will, and just enjoy her body and service and am her friend.
Maybe that is the best one can expect from a girl who works as a hooker. At least I don't have any bad feeligns if I know she is going to Ensenada with another regular over the weekend...

Do you get sex without paying?

Is the sex spontaneous? Does she initiate?

Is she introducing you to her family?

Are you seeing the other side of her life out of the business?

Will she go on vacation with you, and not ask for money?

Would she learn English even if you have to pay for it?

Does she introduce you to her friends?

If if you really love her, what is she doing to show you the other side.

If most of these questions are no, you will never get to another place with her. Even if all of the questions are yes, you still need to be extra careful.

CP

The question is the cost/benefit ratio.

How does it compare with paying new chicas in the bar?

Explorer8939:

If you are getting marriedm or going to have a special relationship with your favorite pute, what do you mean by a cost benefit ratio? If you have to have a cost benefit ratio, you are out of your league.

If you like someone, there is no way to apply a cost benefite ration. If you want a cost benefit ratio for all things in your life, I hope you have a geat life.

CP

The Ferengi point of view would endorse the cost/benefit analysis, especially when it comes to puta relationships. Here are some Ferengi Rules of Acquisition that relate to women/realtionships/family:

A woman wearing clothes is like a man in the kitchen.

Never allow family to stand in the way of opportunity.

Greed is eternal.

Even if it's free, you can always buy it cheaper.

Keep your family close, keep your Latinum (money)closer.

Satisfaction is not guaranteed.

Never place friendship before profit.

Latinum (money) can't buy happiness, but you can sure have a blast renting it.

Friendship is temporary; profit is forever.

She can touch your lobes, but never your Latinum.

Ambition knows no family.

The bigger the smile, the sharper the knife.

Keep your lies consistent.

Ear stroking will get you anything.

It's better to swallow your pride than to lose your profit.

Females and finances don't mix.

Trust is the biggest liability of all.

Treat people in your debt like family, exploit them [ruthlessly].

There's always a catch.

Everything is for sale, including friendship.

Wives serve, brothers inherit.

Blood is thicker than water, and Latinum is thicker than both.

A fool and his money is the best customer. (puta rule #1)

Latinum lasts longer than lust.

A wife is a luxury... a smart accountant, a necessity.

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Deep down we're all Ferengi, sometimes emotional needs for "love" blurs reality with illusionary thoughts, but eventually reality comes back into focus. Be a Ferengi when dealing with women.

I can certain understand the Ferengi need for getting their ears stroked. Do their ears get erect?

I guess human males have a lot of Ferengi qualities.

Roberx,

I find a lot of wisdom in your words and I hope I can remember them:

"I don't love her never will, and just enjoy her body and service and am her friend.
Maybe that is the best one can expect from a girl who works as a hooker. At least I don't have any bad feeligns if I know she is going to Ensenada with another regular over the weekend..."

The desire for love and the resulting calamities from this pursuit can be a dangerous and self-destructive one. Personally,I can no longer afford (emotionally) the luxury of pursuing a quest for love among the lovely and beautiful 'field of blue children'(chicas). I can be their friend only. I can be a damn good friend. I know how to do that one.

I could never heal the one I chose to love and like a moth to a flame my wings have been scorched and I will never again soar so high nor will I plummet to earth in a heap.

How did the great southern playwright express it:
An intercourse not well designed,
For beings of a golden kind.
Whose native green must arch above,
The earth's obscene corrupting love.

Cheers and all the best,
Lancer