I have been seeing my current FAV exclusively for about 6 months. I no longer go into AB and I only meet her and go to El Parador. Our relationship has been great. I will be honest with all of you in that we have been having unprotected sex for the last couple of months. I took her to the clinic myself and she takes the shot as birth control and is negative for std's. I am still on active duty in the Navy and I recently had to start going to sea again. It was not a problem as I would always call her and tell her how much I missed her etc... for about the last 2 weeks when I call her sister and mother answer the phone and she is never home. They speak no english so communicating her whereabouts has been difficult. Last week her sister told me she was on vacation in Mexico City. This made sense as she knew I could not come around for awhile. They way I understood she would not be back until later this week. Then today I call and her mom says she is at work. I don't know what to believe. Then I read a post by a fellow monger that he did her on Sunday. She had never previously worked on Sunday's. I really care for this women and for some reason I feel like she has dumped me and is home but refuses to talk to me. I can't figure out why. I can't get down to the zona until Friday and I will try to seek her out at her apartment to try to figure out was is wrong. Then again, it could all be a communication problem with her mother and sister as I speak no spanish and I have no clue what they are telling me when I call. Has anyone had a similar experience or am I just being paranoid?
I know.... should leave my heart at the border but sometimes after you have been with a person for awhile you can't help but have feelings for them. Flame away!
Oldsailor

If you have been paying her and call her your fav, you can’t be dumped. You are just a cust and she’s the customer care specialist. If you are not paying her, think about it again. How she’s going to make a living sin dinero? Guys often want exclusive rights to a girl, at least to certain extend. Buy they don’t seem to remember why the girls are there in the first place. These women have bills to pay, children and family to support, and plans for the future. So if you are willing and able to support her financially, i.e. meet all her $$$ expectations, then you should do so to keep her on your ship. Otherwise, get yourself a plan b fav and a plan c fav and you won’t feel getting dumped.

BTW, please use a rubber, por favor?

Dude I hope it all works out for you but it is very hard to take a girl out of the bar. "Been there done that from a sailors point of view" (I am a Merchant Marine, lived in Mexico and speak Spanish fluently). Good luck but few of them survive well outside of the bar. I have 10 friends that have married Mexican working girls and it is hard. Of the 10 couples all are on the downside. Not to bring you down just to give a little shot of reality from my viewpoint.

I hope you find her and all is well and you were indeed just being paranoid but if you are prepared for the worst it won't seem quite as bad if you find her were you don't want to. Sorry for the sermon.

Appreciate everyone's advise. I was finally able to reach her by phone last night and she indeed had just returned from the airport. The monger report was about another chica with the same name. The problem was the language barrier. The one sister told me vacation in english while the rest of the family did not know the word for it and simply said "no esta, working". Hence the confusion and my bout of paranoia. Antonio and beavis, your advice is well taken. You would think I would learn after 28 years in the Navy and one ruined marriage in the PI, but this girl is a special woman. Its not about her working in AB, I actually understand that. I am not in position to take her away from the bar anyway. We have developed a relationship away from the bar and the zona and I felt that I could trust her as I had never caught her in a lie to me. Then the communication issue, and I thought she was lying to me or dumping me. After our phone call last night it was obvious a communication mix-up. I was at sea, she could not call me to let me know she was taking a few days vacation in Mexico City. Obviously need to learn spanish.
El Parador on Friday. Whoo hoo!
Thanks again for the advise.
Oldsailor

Hey Old Sailor! -

You say:

"I am still on active duty in the Navy and I recently had to start going to sea again."

I may with you, in a way. My fav wanted a picture of me in uniform just last week. I'm sure, if I get overseas soon, I'll be thinking of her, occasionally. But, my primary goal will be to improve the Arab gene pool! I'm going to find one Osama's wives and have her singing "Allah Bless America" in orgasmic ecstacy! "Hey Shiek, do blue eyes run in your side of the family?"

The Senator sent me and article about the bars in the PI. They're already recruiting pinays to work when you (and the rest of us) show up.

You're an Old Sailor, go ahead and act like one!

OldSailor I don't envy you your problem but I would REALLY recommend learning Spanish! It's a must have for spending quality with any of the girls...

As for the test, well, sorry to seem cold about it but THAT DAY she was clean. Today is a different day. If you have toughts that it might be over (and it might be over just when you're not around) you might want to consider a re-test. Or a condom.

One more thing. When you do have this kind of communication problem, tell the Mother/Sister WHEN you'll be in town and WHERE you'll be staying. Make her come to you.

Bonvvnt...
Thanks and you are right. Talked to her today, will meet with her Friday for an El Parador run. Still sense all is not right. Rushed on the phone, not the same jovial self. I think she was looking for a committment from me and now that she realizes that I cannot give it to her she is starting to step away and treat me just like any other customer. I plan on having a long talk with her on Friday and hopefully she will tell me the truth. She has never lied to me before (at least I have not caught her in one). Thinking of it, it may be for the best as I truly have feelings for this chica and I know that it can never be. Best to hurt for a while now than to crash and burn later. On the condom issue, of course she tells me I am the only one she is going BB with and this is one area that I do believe her in as before we became an item she was almost too cautious. But I here you but it may be a mute point after Friday. If she in fact dumps me, I will go back to AB and never allow myself to fall for another chica. She will be working there also so that ought to be interesting. But heh... I am horny guy.
Oldsailor