Is My Stripper "Girlfriend" a Whore ?
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Is My Stripper "Girlfriend" a Whore ?
I dropped by the other day to drop off a Christmas present for the 18-month-old daughter of "Sis" (a talking Patyy-Cake" doll in spanish).
(This was pre-purchased on-sale several months ago.)
She asked me if I had bought a gift for LLD ("Lady LapDance") too. I replied "Hell No !".
She then asked me if I had planned to buy a gift for LLD's daughter (whom I adore). I gave her a non-commital answer and she replied. "It wasn't her (the daughter's) fault", (which is true).
As I had pre-purchased the gift months before, I felt myself in a bit of a quandry, But I am still miffed at LLD (We don't even speak). In part I think it might piss off LLD, which I have no desire to do. I have mixed feelings about it all.
But I discused it with my current novia & she said "Do it!" So, I approached LLD the next day. She gave me a hell of a dirty look, and I said "With your permission, I'd like to speak with you."
She shrugged. Then I said "I'd like to ask your permission to give your daughter a Christmas present.". She shrugged again. I said "Gracias", turned on my heel, and retreated. She was obviously pissed.
Like I said, we don't talk much.
Later, when her cousin "Beautiful" blew out the candles on her own birthday cake (celebrated at the club), they managed to commence just as LLD went on stage for a dance set, and she missed the whole thing. It struck me as a bit odd. I may not be the only one miffed at LLD.
Oh, what the hell.
Pauncho
I met a stripper at a Rev lap dance bar the other day. During a few lapdances and a few drinks, we seemed to really hit it off. I know from experience that this can be an act to get all they can out of your wallet. The waiters were pimpimg most of the girls in the club, but the one I was with does not do more than dance. However, she wants me to take her out after work one night this weekend. Right now, my attitude is to go with the flow and see where it leads, but I read this thread with great interest. More to come....any advice as to what to expect out of the club, or things to be mindful of?
Kyle
Sure she doesn't go up. And if you blow me, I wont cum in your mouth. I promise.
Powerslave, I understand and that has been my experience, but...One waiter, who I know pretty well, and has steered me right in the past, told me she would not "go up" or into the back....he tried to steer me to the ones that would. This chica, however, REALLY wants me to come back and take her out when she is off. She is a very cute 23yo, and the temptation is great, but I am only guessing at how this might progress. MAybe she has a thing for older men...or their wallets.
Stripper date report....Friday I went back and met her as she was getting off work from her day shift at the revolution strip club. She is very excited that I followed thru, and still wants to go to Las Pulgas. Here's where it gets weird. She says her brother, who is a street barker / doorman, has to go with us. I suspect he is her boyfriend/pimp or who knows, but she insists it is her brother. He gives me the talk about his sister being a dancer, nothing else, and he needs to go with us to Pulgas to keep an eye on sister. We go, and Pulgas is very fun, me and chica dancing, drinking, listening to very good live band. Brother sitting there the whole time at a table drinking $1 Pacifico's (on me). Eventually, chica wants me to take her to Hotel. Brother says no way....They have a big shouting match,etc. Security is paying attention to the commotion, so I head for the door. I don't need this. I am out on the side walk , and she comes out still screaming at him. I start to say bye, she is crying, and pleads with me to stay with her. Somewhere in there, she says in the hysteria, that he is an ass, and is not her brother. He walks away, not to be seen again that night. I am drunk, it is 2am, and I have this very emotional chica on my arm, with fake brother gone. I get a room with her, and leave very early to get back to US. The room is paid, so I leave her to sleep. She crys when I leave..when will I be back? Somewhere in the evening, I gave her my cell number. The next day there is a message on my voicemail, not from her but from him...wanting to know where she is. I'm not sure that I see clearly the angle this guy or her has. If he is pimping her, why not just come straight out? If he is her boyfriend, why did this night happen?
She is beautiful, and fun, but I'm not looking to get into some twisted mess. Not sure I want to see where this trail leads.
Kyle
Hi Kyle i know where this leads...
San Diego Tribune headlines
Whitey killed by Pimp while he is fucking prostitute.
First off i am glad you cam out of it ok. Now here is my sugar coated short and to the point response since I do not know you very well I will give it to you lightly 
Dude you sound like some of these winners on the board. With these girls You take charge not them. If she wants to take big brother than you tell her go ahead have a great time i will take another chica that lubba me.
I would find yourself a new chica and start over maybe this one will leave her novio at home.
TJ has too many chicas to fight over 1 single girl ! By the way Las Pulgas is a fun and cheap place to hang si ?
Good Luck on your future dates
Milkman
Milkman....yes Las Pulgas was fun...and cheap to boot, even when I was paying for three. Gets foggy towards the end, cause we pounded so many $1 Pacificos.
Evidence of you're take charge attitude being on target. When I told her "I'm outa here, you be happy with your 'brother'.." She had this verbal fight with him, then slapped him in the face. I left and she chased me out of Las Pulgas and down the street saying she choose me. I have no idea where he disapeared to. Being drunk, and with a foggy memory of how this all went down, it sure doesn't sound like I was playing it very smart in hindsight.
Back to Las Pulgas...Dancing with my chica, laughing, drinking, band...I will have to get back there, may not be with the same chica of course. Too bad.
By the way, I was washing my clothes and found her laminated Picture ID / Dancers Permit card in my pants pocket. Is it something that she can easily replace? I suppose I could drop it off at the club....I'm sure that was her hope.
Kyle
Well, I was sick and didn't go to Tijuana last weekend, and therefore did NOT take gifts to the daughter of LLD nor any of her 8 cousins.
To tell you the truth, I'm a little miffed at LLD for her big dirty looks she gave me in the conversation above.
I may just skip this bar for a while. If I want to see her cousins, I can call them at home.
Pauncho
A brief followup....I went to my favorite Revo strip club on Sat evening. My beautiful friendly chica was there. We spoke for a bit about our Las Pulgas dance / drunkfest. She now freely admits that her brother is really her boyfriend, and we laughed about all the lies she had going that night. Basically, this guy monitors her work, counts her fichas every half hour, and uses her as his bread winner. Who knows what to believe, but she tells me that he takes all her money every night when they go home, and that she wants to get away from him eventually. I only see the worst happening here though. She will not escape this guy until she is trashed. After only a few months working there she is already in the mode of being very tired from working every day, tempted by the offers of crystal meth to stay alert, and heading down the path of more sexual activity that she never dreamed she would do a few short months ago, just to keep the money flowing. A horible shame I am afraid. I have seen chicas that have obviously had the drug and personal problems before, but I have not actually been close enough to someone as they are sinking into it. I probably won't get back to the area for a few weeks, so it will be very telling to see how she is doing in late January. Anybody seen a chica find her way out of this type of situation? Somehow they have to get free of the BF, and become independent, if that is even possible.
Kyle
| By Snapper on Wednesday, January 01, 2003 - 05:58 am: Edit |
Women love this shit. The shittier he treats her, the more she'll love him. Why do you think you always see nice girls with complete assholes, and nice guys sitting at home on New Years Eve with one hand scratching their asses, and their other hand plucking away at a computer keyboard writing a response to something on an internet message board.... er, something?
Amazingly, after 6 months of not saying "Hello", LLD and I are speaking - but just politely.
After I kissed her sister on the cheek, then shook LLD's hand, sis asked me why didn't I kiss LLD's cheek too ?
I told her that I didn't think she'd want me to.
Then sis said something that I couldn't hear and I ended up kissing her cheek.
It felt a little like an arranged marraige or something. It's pretty clear who gives the orders around Club LapDance.
Dropped by Club LapDance on Saturday Feb 1,
As I was leaving "LLD" waved at me.
I walked over, shook hands, she offered her cheek & I kissed it.
Nunca se sabe.....
I Always enjoy reading your updates SP, but I don't know why you would want to get friendly with LLD again!
It's obvious she never cared about you and only used you for her own gain. It would seem that times may be a little hard for her now and right away you are willing to set yourself up for disappointment all over again.
No. She's doing OK, Happily shacked up with some mexican dude who actually helps pay the rent, rather than live off her.
Yes, she never cared about me. For about 6 months we simply didn't speak. It got a little old, finally. Throughout the entire interval I remained friends and/or acquaintances with most of her many family members.
Actually, (visually speaking) she's not my type. And now that I'm not "connected", I look at her and wonder "Why ?" I bothered in the first place.
The answer, of course, is that I was limping away from my Long-Term Favorita in February 2002. This is the same one that I re-connected with in October and I dumped (sadly) on the first of January.
But because I initiated the breakup, I'm hurting less than before. Also, I've been screwing a 19, 22, & 23 year-old to ease the pain. Plus a few street girls.
Admitedly, these women have power over me. But I have the power to ease their hold for 10 or 20 bucks with another girl.
Yes, I'm stupid about women, emotionally immature, and I repeat my mistakes. But I know that the next one works only a half-block down the street.
And I'm getting a little better at spotting their lies.
Rock on SP. Maybe I'll catch up with you and buy you a few beers when I'm in TJ around the 14th.
Now I remember why I liked LLD (Lady LapDance).
I sucked her tit Saturday night on stage for a dollar. They are nicer than I remembered.
I needed to do somethinng to take my mind off of the woman I spent the day with. It worked.
The other day, I told "Sis" that her newly arrived brother (yet another one) looked like someone I wouldn't want to piss off.
This week, he greeted me in a very friendly manner.
I guess we know who the boss is in that family, eh ?
See "Oh-Oh, THE NOVIA MEETS LADY LAPDANCE ..." at
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Went to LLD's house (while she was working to se her other sister's new baby and drop off a gift (Extra large box of diapers).
Gosh her other sister-in-law sure is cute.
Well, "LLD" & I are "kinda' friends".
I occasionally drop by the house when she's not home to take toys to the kids.
She's still got the same (non-resident) boyfriend.
Westill do about 1- 2 lapdances/week.
(Love to suck her tits)
Of her sisters that live in Tijuana, the youngest (who is married) just gave birth & is lactating heavily. I'm negotiating with "Sis" (the older sister) to make regular feeding visits.
She's bound & determined to keep me in the family as a financial resource. If I'm well fed, that's OK with me.
We'll wait & see....
Well, the negotiations fell through.
Also, I was invited to the house to meet her dad.
(fortunately, her novio was nowhere to be seen.)
a subsequent week - in return for always feeding me when I'm at the house - I was going to take the whole crew out to dinner.
As it turned out, I took chinese food (to go) to their house. There were 24 of them (including small children) plus me.
We ordered way up on the expensive side of the Chinese family meals. The food damn near filled the trunk of her brothers car.
The tab was $ 140.00 US. Not bad for so damn many people.
"LLD" and I are friends again. But I get along better with her sister.
I showed up at her house again - to drop off a $10.00 CD player and 47 cuentos infantiles (children's stories) on 9 CDs for LLD's (Lady LapDance) 4 year-old daughter (Whom I adore).
As most of the family was present (many visiting from the south) so I took some photos.
They forced me in some of them and made me stand next to LLD. I hope to hell her big sonofabitch boyfriend doesn't see the photos and come after my ass.
She's been real cordial lately, it probably means that I should keep my guard up.
At Club LapDance, we did a lapdance, I sucked her titties, told her that I still loved her but that I was no longer a fool. (A lie on both counts..)
Of course I tell all of the girls that I love them, including her sister and her cousin.....
The truth is that I'm in love with sucking her tits.
Jeeshh. Last week she asked me would I be in Tijuana for my birthday and yesterday she asked what gift did I want and what was my favorite food.
You have to keep in mind that I ignored her birthday, her daughter's birthday (I did send a present), and her sister's birthday (several days apart) 5 months ago (although I attended her neice's recent birthday party last month).
At first I told her she wouldn't give me what I want (referring to a blow job and pussy).
Later I told her "Your friendship without all of the lies...". Then I told her the details of the "BIG one" that she and her sister had perpetuated for the last year (plus).
I told her to tell her sister that, as well. And that my favorite food is Chili Relleno. (Her mom is cooking and she's good at it.)
This may prove to be interesting.
SEŅOR PAUNCHO's TIJUANA BIRTHDAY PARTY ????
Yeh, LLD (Lady LapDance)and Sis (her LapDancing sister) have been real nice to me lately, inviting me to the house to spend time with their family (while they are working), especially rapping with their dad. (I suspect that they have been careful to schedule this when LLD's novio is busy...)
On the average, I go there once a week while their parents are in town. We have about run out of things to talk about.
Two weekends ago, LLD asked me where I was spending my (mid-week) birthday. I hadn't thought about it but I took the hint, So I told her "In Tijuana". When asked, I told her that I planned to take a half-day off then come to Tijuana.
Keep in mind that when their two birthdays (several days apart, 5 months ago) approached and Sis asked what I was giving them, I answered that I would give them the same they had given me the previous year (which wasn't even verbal good wishes - they just ignored it).
But, keeping an open mind to the flow of things, I answered her. The next weekend, LLD asked me what I liked to eat. After learning that her mom was doing the cooking, we negotiated and came up with Chili Rellenos.
When the day arrived, I left work, went to Tijuana, went into Club LapDance, greeted the family (that portion that works there), sucked a few dancer's tits ($1.00 each), and was told to arrive at the house at 4:30 - 5:00 pm, but that I had to (mandatory) return to the bar around 7:00 or 8:00 pm.
This had me confused, but I a visited few bars, then went to the house. I don't know what I expected, but it went like this:
I went in, they sat me down, and they fed me a few chili rellenos. At first I ate alone, then Pops came in, the 2 of the kids.
One or two (of the 10 family members intermittently present) wished me "Felicidades", the rest mostly said "Hi" and went about their business. I was a little baffled, but not upset.
Eventually I left and returned to Centro, catted around a bit, then went to Club LapDance. LLD greeted me with a BIG hug instead of the standard kiss on the cheek.
I wanted to enjoy a LapDance with one of the girls, but I was instructed NOT to move from my chair (this took about 45 minutes). I was able to suck the tit of the dancer who sat with me (Not LLD), and a couple of them on the stage (from my chair).
Ultimately, the cake and soda arrived. They sang "Maņanitas" (Mexican Happy Birthday song) followed by the traditional "Smash & Grab";
The birthday boy (me) has to dip his head down and take a bite of the cake ("Grab") before the designated individual shoves ("Smash") his face into the cake with great force. The practice is applied to adults and children alike (or maybe I'm considered a child).
Despite the speed I attempted during the "Grab", the young lady appointed to the task Smashed my face into the cake with such force that icing went an inch-and-a-half up my nose. She did neglect to "paint my face" with icing, which I have seen done to children.
Due to the heat, ice cream was omitted. I ate the piece of cake with the nose print out of sanitary consideration to the others. We laughed and hugged a lot. (For birthdays, men hug too.) They were kind enough to omit the traditional (in a bar) "beer shower".
I left knowing that I would have to whip up something for the girls' next birthdays. I felt very included. Of course, because their family has 34 members, this may cost me a little from time-to-time.
Cool. Pictures?
Sunday, August 10th.
It was LLD's brother's birthday. At the last minute I was invited to the house for dinner.
I went - complete with birthday card (with an enclosed $2 bill whose serial ended in his age), was overfed and rolled back to Tijuana.
There was a new adult male present. (LLD was at work).
I think it LLD's novio because he bossed around LLD's kid and the kid minded him.
Of course that was After I told him that LLD's kid was my favorite......
Oh yeh..... no pictures !
A couple of weeks ago was LLD's other brother's birthday (6 brothers). A small intimate family gathering of 17 (15 family members, LLD's boyfriend, and myself - I think he resents my presence)
The 2 year-old daughter of "Sis" told her (in baby talk) that we couldn't kiss anymore. When she translated, I took it in the "on the lips" context.
As she only kisses my cheek in greeting, I responded "Pero, no hacemos." Everyone roared in laughter. I guess that means "We don't do IT" (Fuck) rather than "We don't do THAT" (Kiss).
I guess I need a few more Spanish lessons.
As I was lying with "LLD" on her bed (in her house), I suddenly reflected on how bad I wanted it almost like this about 1 1/2 years ago.
It made me laugh.
I say almost in that her brother and one of her sister-in-laws were on the bed with us. We were doing a NON-ROMANTIC/NON-SEXUAL errand (yeh, Christmas related) that required privacy from the kids.
I glad her boyfriend didn't pick that moment to show up.....
Valentine's Day 2004;
I brought LLD one of those See's Candies Silk Heart-boxed one-pound boxes of candy.
Her boyfriend gratefully accepted it with a "It's for me - right ?". I guess that means that he's not jealous any more
For LLD's sister's birthday, I got her a two-pound box of See's candies - to fatten her up.
For LLD's birthday, I bought her a massage chair device from Bed, Nath, & Beyond. In front of her family, I referred to her boyfriend as now un-needed (he didn't laugh, but didn't frown either).
I referred to the device as a "gran consolador".
Since I bought it, she no longer "responds" to the massages I start to give her. She might be in love, as she refuses to lend it to her sister.
Ahh, but when it breaks what will she do?
Call yourself "Sr. Consolito"?
DG
Actually, she's been shacked up with a young, handsome Mexican dude now for about 9 months.
When I went to the last family birthday party, I ended up seated near him and his cousin. I never knew it before, but they both speak & understand a good bit of english.
He was a little drunk and actually acted like he didn't understand Spanish very well. He's not a bad guy and treats LLD's 5 year-old daughter (Who I also refer to as my little girl - I adore her) quite well. It's clear he loves her too.
At a recent party, we had a picture taken with her suspended between us on our arms, I referred to it as a picture with "both dads". (Biological dad left when mom was 3 months pregnant).
He bears up well under my jokes that LLD no onger needs him because of the vibrator/massage chair.
Speaking of massages, I was across the street from Club LapDance in a cigar store when a waiter came in and told me that one of the Club LapDance girls wanted me to give her a massage.
I had just left there, but I went back anyway. The girl met me downstairs, and we went into the abandoned "old' club, where I proceeded to rub her back for 20 minutes. She had worked there for a year, but I had never seen her before.
Married, with a 4 month-old child (LACTATION ALARM), I told her that there was something I wanted to say to her but I didn't know how. (That something was "Can I suck all of the milk out of your tits ?").
The next time I went into the club she blew me off. Oh well.....
A final segment of this thread is tha LLD's sister pissed me off so thoroughly about six months ago that I will not return to that family's house nor Club Lapdance.
P.S. LLD shacked up and had 2 more kids with her boyfriend, who drugged and drank and hit her until she threw him out.
He scared her so much that she moved out her house they had constructed. She went south and may never return. At least not yet.
Par for the course. Since the "boyfriend" ended up with the house, I suspect that he maneuvered your amiga into leaving, so he gets to keep the house, while she goes back home with no money, plus some kids.
