One of us (no, not me) has apparently divorced his wife, and somehow gotten her to believe that he does not have to pay her a dime for child support nor alimony.

Instead, he has taken up with a girl in TJ, and one in CR, and maybe even one in Brazil, according to her. And he even has tried to get the courts to think she is lying about his infidelities......

Either she has the worlds worst lawyer, or else her lawyer is working for him.....I cannot figure out how he can hide his money from the courts.

I assume, that in California, you get the shaft financially when divorcing the wife if she gets custody of the kids.

She was a foreigner (dual citizenship) before they got married and is thinking of returning to her original country with the kids because he sold their house and they can barely eat on what she makes at her job, much less pay rent.

I figured five kids was worth about $2000 a month at least but then I have no experience with child support payments.

Sometimes people just amaze me when they accept without questioning what they are being told.....

Hell...I'm in the middle of a divorce myself.

But no alimony involved (Hawaii is a "no fault" state...infidelity is not grounds for divorce, and alimony is rarely awarded here). In fact, SHE pays ME child support! (Albeit only $200 a month for four kids...she got off lucky).

Yup, and I've fucked a couple dozen bargirls in Thailand since our seperation. I was supposed to go back and do three times as many this month -- in Thailand, Cambodia, and Philippines -- but my damn wife's lawyer hit me up with a 20 page questionnaire and "Request to produce documents" that I haven't even started yet -- and it's due in a week. So my trip to SEA is postponed indefinitely (or, at least until our divorce proceedings stop being so ugly).

Travelocity charged me $105 to cancel my flight reservations. And I'm going to lose the $70 premium I paid for trip insurance. I wonder if I can charge my wife for these expenses?

"I assume, that in California, you get the shaft financially when divorcing the wife if she gets custody of the kids."

You're making a false assumption. I have seen a number of stay at home mothers react with astonishment when the judge tells them that the law expects both parents to financially support their kids ie that they'll have to find work.

Reytj

BTW the Judicial Council of California has set up a blingual self help website with info about this topic at http://www.courtinfo.ca.gov/selfhelp/

Many times they impute at least full time minimum wage if the mother is capable of earning. The line I hear from lazy South Bay women is, "But I can't work, I need to be home with my kids".....this doesn't bode well with judges if the kids are old enough to go to day care or school....especially female judges. The only time that the woman's unemployment can really kill the husband is with regards to spousal support. If the marriage was lengthy and he asked her to be a stay-at-home mother then he will get shafted big time with spousal support if he is making good coin. People also need to remember that divorce and child support are really separate entities altogether....even though they are the same case. The divorce really only relates to division of community assets and debts. The issues of support, whether child or spousal, is normally dealt with in OSC hearing and not trial. There are cases though where the spousal support is reserved and suspended until trial because spousal support is very subjective and the guidelines are not set in stone like child support.

Yes, I discovered that since my ex-wife was a deadbeat who would never hold a job while we were married and basically spent a great deal of time sitting around on her ever growing larger ass, that in California this is a good thing for her. Since apparently if she would not hold a job while we were married, then the courts see no reason she should have to hold a job after we are divorced. It seems that way anyhow. At least I was smart enough to never have any kids with the bitch.

Sounds like being married is a drag. Does any body know of any surrogate mother services? (for those of us who still are not married). Perhaps one can get away with having kids, without the wife!

Hope someone answers, thanks

Don't even THINK about having kids!! At least you can get rid of the wife in court - the children are there forever (or until they overdose on something or wrap a car around a pole)...

E

Yes, Epi is wise. The only bright side in all of this crap is that I DO NOT have any kids.

But we need to pass on the genes, we need to have kids. What i am worried about is the wife taking my house and my money. Then screwing somebody else while i work my ass off.

Does anybody know of surrogate mothers?

Blazers, you are a lawyer, do you know about this?

Thank you in advance all.

So far Ive been wise enough not to ever get married !!!!
To many women in to many places to ever settle on just one !!!
Single=Bliss
By the way, I'll turn 57 this month.

You definitely do not want to get married
if you're a US citizen. There is a high
probability you're going to get the shaft.
The lazier and less ethical the to-be-x, the
more you'll be screwed.

The worst part of being married is that it
is almost sure to result in children. The
absolute worst thing you can ever do is
marry a woman that already has children. The x-husband will be after you, the cops will be called despite the fact that you're trying to
be a nice guy and breaking no laws, she may not be
able to move more than X miles from her x-husband, the kids will be out of control but the courts say only the biological mother should discipline the kids, you'll end up spending all your money on the kids and she'll blow the big tax returns on dumb crap, when her car breaks down she'll take yours forcing you to pay for her repairs, and if you're lucky she'll be screwing more guys behind your back than the average working girl, so at least you don't have to feel guilty when you leave her nagging ass for something new.

Please feel free to ignore everything else
I ever say but trust me on this one. You don't
want to get married. You really don't want to
marry a woman that already has kids. Just date
her. She'll get low income housing, food stamps,
and be in good shape until she's 40 and cut off
with no employable skills. Of course, in all
likelihood the relationship will have ended by
then and you'll be glad you didn't get married.

Everywomanshero-


You have to be joking to have a handle like that!