Hi I appreciate anyones thoughts on the Club Hombre site, about the path I am going down.
I've been visiting the 'spot's; off and on for 20+ years,
I used to visit the old Firehouse, before that was shut down, now, nothing seems to come close to the selection and quality and feel. I spoke to my American friend who moved to Makati 20+ years back, he actually moved given a job as a consultant to the old Firehouse. Anyway, I digress.
Now, I just returned a few weeks ago from a visit,
Makati , walked the strip looking at almost every club, and A/C, I found A/C distasteful, sad, depressing, not for me. And , the girls were just so so in Makati. I didn't like the rules, the regulations and even tried to befriend a Mommesan offering her some excellent money to find the girls for me. That also did not work.
So, for a good looking guy, with panache, you can easily find many willing girls at the malls and Greenbelt in Makati, who may not be as work oriented and more my liking. I did just that and found a lovely woman.
I had a wonderful trip, I stayed in a beautiful suite at Dusit Nikko in Makati, I've a friend who lives there formerly from Hawaii, and his employee arranged 'local resident ' price of 6,600 pesos for the suite I adore, ..3 large rooms, 1,000 sq. feet with lounge right outside my door that has breakfast, snacks and drinks during the day and early eve,,
Anyway, the clubs were not for me, I walked them in Makati and A/C, so I picked up a woman, 30 year old, from the provenances, she says she has spent 6 years in the nunnery. Left the nunnery, joined the world, got a boyfriend , got pregnant, he left her, and she struggles to support herself with her sisters, cousins, etc, tiny little grocery store, a few piglets and such.
Still does not make enough money and says, that is why she came to Manila, yes , to meet a man who could pay far more than the work her sister gave her, in the mayor's office of some small provenance earning 100 Pesos a day.
She is very sweet, I won't go on, cause I know the drill. We spent a week together, in the suite and in Boracay, and it was beautiful and the communication was very real and honest. Of course she'd love to come here, "to be with me"...
I made it quite clear we are no where close to any stage of knowing each other that I would even open a dialogue about a future. She does have 9 month old child. She was completely with the program, fully understanding. I treated her with respect and she responded to that.
I am actually feeling quite detached from the entire relationship with her. Partially that is my nature, partially the sum total of my life experience, and partially the reality.
I am returning in December and will spend 10 days with her. She has tried to work on getting a Visa and sent me the realities of bank account and other requirements. Which I simply told her I do not want to even begin to put time into understanding her needs at this moment. I will not send her money, which she did not specifically ask for, just told me the costs of completing all Visa requirements. I did say to her, rather naively, that I'd love if she can come to America, she has a passport, and left it to her. Meaning, if it is easy and I just need to buy a plane ticket or something great. I've since respnded to her explanations of the requirements that she has to accomplish much or as much as she can on her own, and I'm not ready to start sending money or making any such commitetmens, which she expressed complete understanding about. She reiterated that Fiancé visa is this requirement, and some other Visa is another requirement, and I told her I do not want to even deal with it now. And we are not at the point to make that kind of commitment. I will enjoy my time with her in December and Jan. And what I did offer her, is she would like to become a professional in the culinary field. I have a close relation with one of the great chefs in the U.S., he and his restaurant will help if it is reasonable.
Is there some student, apprentice, work, visa she could get with this established restaurants filling in some papers, then I would happily pay her air fare to come stay with me and work at the restaurant.
Do you see any other hazards in my plan? I would buy her air ticket, my friends restaurant would complete some papers if it is not overwhelming to verify her apprenticship, work, training, schooling at this restaurant. And,I'd enjoy her stay. If it grows while she is here great, if I get bored, she has to leave.
Is such a visa possible?
Am I missing something in my planning?
I have been setting clear expectations about many issues to her and she is responding in accord so far.
Any thoughts?

Trainwreck a-comming...

Sorry to be so glib but you are not the first one to go down this path. You think you got all the angles covered but if she is who you say she is, you have no idea how big a letdown she is going to have. The only mitagating factor is you will not be the first.

You can flame me now.

if I'm totally honest and open to what happens, and do not decieve her, then the pain of her failed dream is her pain, not my deception.