Has anyone ever had any luck with adultfriendfinder.com? I have been a member of that site from time to time.

Most of the posts are either of unattractive women or fake posts to collect email addresses for spam. There are a few real posters, but the competition is fierce for those few.

I was able to capture the attention of three different females from friendfinder. One was an unattractive big female, another one lived in a ghetto and had a child and another was a stoned female who just lost her job.

The big female I simply passed on. I went over to the ghetto womans place and was a little nervous about the situation. We sat down on the couch and then she put her young child to bed. We looked at each other for a little bit and I decided that this was not the neighborhood for me to be in. I also felt weird doing anything with a young child in the next room. She wasnt super attractive anyway, so I called it a night with no action.

The next woman I lured off of friendfinder was a blonde woman. I got to her apartment in Ventura County, California and she was completely stoned with bongs all over the place. She explained she just lost her job, got fired, and was depressed. This one wasnt great looking, but acceptable. We had sex all over the apartment. Then I left and never looked back again. This one was going to be a true one night stand.

So I will have to rate adultfriendfinder an F. Simply horrible.

I read one post which combined adultfriendfinder and the mongering experience in jakarta which was interesting.

I have never had any luck on that site. Several of my friends go on that site and I have never heard anything good about it.

Since I am in San Francisco, I have heard if you are gay, it works great. But if you were gay, you wouldn't be on this site!

Since you are in So Cal, I would suggest if you need it, go to TJ. Its only a few hours away.

I have had lots of success through AFF, but mainly in Thailand and Indonesia, especially the latter. There the girls are fighting to get to you, the quality varies, but the sex in my experince has always been phenominal, I have now had 5 of my 10 best sessions with girls or couples I have found through AFF. In the UK I have had replies, but not taken any up yet as I have been out of the country.

I've only tried it in the USA. Since its non-pros (supposedly), its legal.

Interesting, I should try it for my next trip.

I did see your trip report in Indonesia about the couples and such. It does sound interesting, a non-mongering couple or a non-pro single woman who wants to genuinely have sex.

However, I did do a search on adultfriendfinder and came up with a lot of older white male/young asian couples. Even though it does sound interesting, I really dont want to star in an Ed Powers production. . .

There is another one called hornymatches.com

Has anyone heard of it. I just joined about a week ago and got several "contacts of interest", a couple of them were very do-able....

Justdan, you remember that AFF hit you sent me about the girl from Nogales? She was smoking. I'll bet I still have it somewhere.

hey BL,

of course I remember, its hard to find anyone, anywhere, much hotter than that.

Hope everything is well with you, send my regards to HappyLatinaLoverBoy.

Most of the hot girls on Adultfriendfinder are hookers. I run across the same pictures on Craigslist in the "Erotic Services" section.

So watchout.

In reality, there are very few women that just want NSA sex. They don't need to advertise, there are plenty of guys willing to fill that need.

Those that find something, are either very good looking or just plain lucky.

Ironeagle, I have had GREAT success on AFF. I'm still friends with and banging a GORGEOUS girl here in DC, and banged a Thai girl I met two years ago. AFF had cooled down a bit, but a buddy here in DC used my profile (Cheap bastard won't pay for his own subscription) to meet a cute nympho.

I think the potential is there however there are a lot of hurdles. First, fake advertisements. These are obvious and not so obvious. Then you have to get past all those that are unattractive. Once you do find the real ones, you have to compete with the huge guy database that is on there.

Finally, once you have found someone, then most of the time she is not going to look quite like her picture.

Im going to give it one more college try, but thats it no more after that for me.

(Message edited by ironeagle on July 27, 2006)

So lets discuss this a little further.

What do you believe would be the most successful profile? What type of pictures would you put on there? What type of summary? I have my own ideas, but I want to see what other guys would come up with and what seems to be the most successful for them.

I tried with no photos and got no direct replies and only a few from direct email. I then posted some photos including one naked and I got lots of unsolicited mails and my return on emails sent out went up 10 fold.

My profile is quite full and I took the time to fill in a lot of the questionaires. I think this helps as I have been complimented on it by quite a few girls. I tell a bit about myself and make it clear what I am looking for.

Lastly and very importantly, I read every profile I sent to and tailored my reply to their needs. It all takes time, but it has given me a good return. My view is once you get a hook into a girl provided you tread carefully you have a 70%+ chance to meet.

Anyone think any other types of internet dating sites might work? Not necessarily the overseas-bride type things. I'm thinking more, the simple personals -- Yahoo, E-harmony, etc. Adult Friend Finder is for direct sexual contact; what if you want a girlfriend?

In my experience, I haven't been able to make any of these sites work. The "free" ones are FULL of spam -- like others have reported about AFF, the high content of hookers and fakes looking for spam-email destinations.

In addition, I've never been using the services from a populated area. You'd think that the rural districts of America would be the places most likely to benefit from long-distance communication such as internet dating -- I mean, if you live in a town too small to have a night club, you could let the internet be your night club! But in my experience, the opposite is the case, that people who live in big cities where they ostensibly don't "need" internet dating, are exactly the people who most populate internet dating.

Your thoughts?

I have not had that much luck with Adult Friend Finder. I got lucky once and with a very questionable woman. I just tried Adult Friend Finder again today for the second time, but I have no confidence that it will work. Hey its always good to try it just in case.

I have had hit and miss luck with Yahoo personals and Match.com.

My true luck has been with the AOL member directory when I lived in SoCal. You need to directly chat with a woman and build her confidence, then she will meet you in person. I do indeed have some wild stories from the AOL member directory. If they are online, they are usually lonely. Why would they be online if they had a boyfriend or a husband? Here are just a few of the stories:

19 year old Korean woman- Talked with her over AOL and then on the phone. After about a half hour, the conversation turned to sex. She came over the next day and as I promised her, her clothes came off as soon as she came through the door. Then it was sex sex sex.

23 year old Japanese woman-recent college grad just looking for fun- She came over in the morning, we fucked after 15 minutes of conversation, then rushed home in the late afternoon to avoid traffic.

27 year old Japanese woman- Met her on AOL. She was going back to school and just wanted a fuck buddy until she graduated, nothing serious. It was 6 months of pure sex all the time.

37 year old Vietnamese woman going through mid-life crisis, met her on AOL, dated her off and on until she turned 40. Sex sex sex once again all the time. 105 lb body

- Filipinas, filipinas, filipinas- Aol is filled with them. I have so many stories of meeting the filipinas from online. Most of them foreigners here in the states and it was easy to fuck on the first date.

Now all this was out in Southern California. Not sure how it would work in a rural state.

Another alternative site is myspace.com. Remember, you have to have a marketable profile.

Ironeagle -

"Why would they be online if they had a boyfriend or a husband?"

You're kidding, right?

AJ

Nope, not kidding. I find that most women in relationships do not sit around online chatting with people.

I do have an update to the adultfriender thread. I spent 3 hours carefully grooming my profile and putting up pictures a few days ago. No naked pictures with my dick hanging out. My opinion is that it might appear a little creepy if thats the first picture a woman sees.

I took a picture of myself with my shirt off and pants on in a bathroom mirror and the flash of the camera blurted out my face. I also include one good action shot that I took while in Angeles and with the faces blurred out. Then I compiled an album of 13 action shots of myself and placed them in an album that someone would have access to once they joined my friends network, faces blurred out too. Haha. I know its cheating throwing up the mongering pics and then saying that they were of me and my exlover, but all is fair right?

Then I set out and searched through the profiles with pictures. (My next action will be to go through the non-pictured ones. Well, we will see.) I messaged over 43 women with the following message:

"Let me introduce myself. I am 6'0, athletic, brown hair and brown eyes. Im very laid back and enjoy the good times.

I am writing to you because Im looking for a casual partner to have some fun with. Just good old straight energetic porn type sex.

So there is my picture. Please write back if you like what you see and we will go from there.

Many regards."

I had one response from a 26 year old Asian woman who appeared doable in her picture. We have sent two messages to each other. There was another response by a 37 year old Asian woman and I am awaiting another message from her.

So in the afternoon, I am going to do a few more searches and see if I can message at least 50-100 more and see what happens next.

If they replied back once, then that demonstrates at least a casual interest.

Here is a picture that was posted in the womans profile on adultfriendfinder. You cant see their faces so I believe its ok to post it up here...

Whoops, cancel that. The picture of her is in a sexual act with some guy. I just remembered I cant post those up here. Sometimes I wish Clinton was back in office. . .

(Message edited by ironeagle on July 29, 2006)

Adultfriendfinder/Myspace.com update
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(Note: The sex mentioned in this post was all for free, not for pay, so there was no violation of any laws here.)

I met up with my 24 year old Filipina from Myspace.com. I had previously met her sometime ago and she is a domestic servant here in the USA. It was sex, sex, sex once again and I did take her out for desert.

I started up with adultfriendfinder last week. As stated previously, I posted a few photos and filled in all the fields. I sent out a carefully worded email (cut&paste) to 75 different women who appeared doable. I have had 5 women accept friends invitations. 2 women replied back with non-form letter type replies and sending me an additional picture. The 2 women were both Asian, one was 26 and the other 37. I wrote them back expressing interest in meeting. No luck, they have not gotten back to me.

I am going to wait until Thursday night and then send out another round of posts on both myspace and adultfriendfinder.

I looked through the guys profiles on both sites, just out of curiosity, to see what they were posting. I believe I am a good looking guy. Im not in my twenties, but Im not overweight and keep myself in good shape. However, there is a lot of competition out there it appears. There are guys on there with six pack abs and other such features that a woman looking for sex might desire. Even if your a good looking guy and in good shape, I still believe your efforts might not be successful on adultfriendfinder due to the high amount of competition.

I also looked at women who posted their profiles in Thailand and the Philippines. I looked through a few hundred profiles and I will be honest with my observations. There were only a few photos (out of the hundreds) that appeared truly impressive. The photos of genitals reminded me of pictures taken right out of a medical journal. The impressive photos appeared to be taken from porn sites. I noticed one that was from a Randy West video, Up and Cummers.

My belief is that adultfriendfinder will be a wash. It was worth a try though. Even if I found just one woman who was interested in a strictly sexual relationship, it would have been worth it. The relationship would have probably lasted a few months until the woman wanted to move on to something more permanent.

I have had experience with many women that I met from the AOL member directory that resulted in strictly sexual relationships. Now, mind you, these experiences were in southern california where sex seems to be everywhere. These sexual relationships usually would last about 3 months with sex just about every weekend and sometimes multiple times in a week. In one case, it resulted in an on-off sexual relationship with a 100 lb Viet woman for over 4 years.

The sex from the myspace filipina was excellent and better then mongering. The advantage of picking up a woman from a website or online chat is that these women are truly interested in the idea of hooking up. They are only compelled by desire and not cash.

The disadvantage is that you really have to work at it to find someone. This might be different if you go to a foreign country where they might like westerners.

I think the best choice is to stick with mongering and forget about these websites. It seems like a lot of effort.

There can still be benefits to the website method, that mongering doesn't have, IF the websites would work. You'd be able to do it without organizing a long trip, you save on airfare, you don't have to take time off of work ... The whole "logistics" thing could be solved by website fuck-buddy access. (Some folks might suggest an American-based escort if a guy's not able to leave town, but there are disadvantages to that: first, the cost; second, only if you're in a larger city will it be available.)

So, I still hold out hope for the Adult Fuck Finder networks of the future to create some options for me ...

Well, there are mongering options in the United States, however, prostitution is illegal in most states so Hombre does not allow us to discuss them here. Not sure if we can talk about the legalized brothels in Nevada, but I dont think anyone wants to talk about how they paid a few grand for all night in one of those brothels.

Lets just say that you can find the domestic options on other websites and that we cant talk about them here. Im not going to say the exact website, just go to google and type something like world sex guide.

Im not certain if we can talk about escorts either. Technically, escorts are not really prostitutes. You just pay for a date and if any sex happens, it happens off the clock and is for free. Well, thats how its supposed to work on paper and how escort sites keep going without law enforcement breaking the doors down.

Too many complications with providers in the US. International is the way to go.

Ironeagle: didn't mean to enter into a discussion of the mongering options in the USA, since that's beyond the purview of Club Hombre. In my experience, only big cities make it possible, and I'm not in one.

So, again, the same problem arises. Just as with Adult Friend Finder, the computer is only useful where the hot women are, but where the hot women are, you don't need the computer.