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(Message edited by fessca on July 07, 2008)

Total newbie - have never mongered outside the US. I am having difficulty choosing a destinantion.

Any info on what would be the best destination for finding a life partner to bring back here. Also is that even worth chasing.

Why are you asking about a "life partner" on a board about prostitution?

Please contemplate "What am I looking for?", "How do I feel about prostitution?" and "How do I feel about Women, especially Women who trade sexual favors for material goods?"

And the really big question "Am I a Misogynist?"

Me?

I'm looking for Sex and Intimacy without obligations.

Prostitution is a useful business that enables me to have hot sex with beautiful women.

Women? Now I'm going to paint with a broad brush here, Women are hormonally deranged sociopaths that are sexy and compelling creatures that I want to tango with but do not want to become entangled with. Prostitutes allow me to have my cake and eat it too.

Does that make me a Misogynist? In some ways maybe, but I neither define myself by what I think about women in general or in particular nor do I begrudge women the right to their pursuit of happiness.

Squirrly,
Never go to a mongering destination "looking for a life partner". Go looking to get laid, meet a lot of hot women and have fun. You may get lucky and meet someone special but it needs to fall in your lap, so to speak...ha ha. Don't go looking for it. I suggest Costa Rica for your first trip. Stay at the del rey. Its safe and it is easy to research on this board.

Looking for a life partner at a sex tourism hotspot is like looking for a business partner amongst a group of paroled felons. Im not saying its impossible but I am saying it is very unwise and likely to end with you a sadder, poorer but hopefully wiser man.

I am sure there are matchmaking sites on the internet geared to finding a life partner. The reputable ones probably take great effort in screening out the kind of girls you will meet at a whoremongering destination. You might want to seriously contemplate why that might be.

Why not instead just go to one of these destinations with no more goal in mind than to have fun screwing pretty young women?

A tropical location, good cheap food and a variety of young sex partners? Its no Branson Missouri or Williamsburg but you might grow to like it.

A little more info would be helpful, that type of girl are you looking for? Age, colour, education, must she speak English, do you like Asians,Blacks, Latino, Russian or white girls, what religion, and the rest?

At first flush I would suggest you check out the Asian or Russian bride sites.

Remember sometimes the fun is not in finding what you are looking for but in the search.

The guy asked for a life partner, not a woman. I thought in the hetero world we called a "life partner" a wife? Not that there's anything wrong with it, but maybe the guy is looking for a dude to bring back home.

ClubHombre, The Big Tent Mongering Site.

Cat
You see it pays to be pacific. Your right One should never assume after all a dog is still mans best friend maybe we should send him to the SPCA, do you have SPCA's in the USA?

Isawal:

"At first flush . . . "

A Freudian slip perhaps?

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Cat meowed: ClubHombre, The Big Tent Mongering Site

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Give the guy a break.

He may save a whole favella.

MM

(Message edited by majormajor on September 13, 2009)

Join one of the better dating websites:LatinAmericanCupid, BrazilCupid, Amigos.com or one of the many others available. Visit those countries where the non-pros are more readily available,etc. And always carry one of these[just in case]:



(Message edited by copperfieldkid on September 13, 2009)

Thanks Guys - hope you had fun with that. Now that I know the lingo I am looking for GFE destinations. Any suggetions for a beginner GFE mongering destination with no foreign languages?

Secrt,

Have you tried some of the suggested websites? There are many non-working girls on them looking for a serious relationship which they hope leads to marriage. Get to know each other on line, likes/dislikes, exchange pictures, etc. Once you find one that you like and shows promise then book your flight to where she lives.
You do need to be wary as pros also try and 'conceal' themselves on these sites also.
Follow your heart, even if it's nasty!

CFK

(Message edited by copperfieldkid on November 10, 2009)

Philippines or Thailand would probably be a good choice.

If you don't like Asians, Brazil or Colombia would be good, but some Spanish or Portuguese would be helpful, but not necessary as long as you do all your research first.

The pros that try and 'conceal' themselves on these sites are the best.... usually does not take too much time to get into their pants, much less complicated (at least if you are not looking for something serious).

On the Brazilian dating websites I would be especially leary of the young ones from Rio that are interested in any age, or have revealing pics of themselves, live in Zona Sul (i.e. Copa), do not work, etc... many warning signs at least if you are looking for a GFE.

A good sign is someone that post some normal compatibility requirements - i.e. 10 year age difference (versus 30-40 age difference is 'ok"), puts interesting info into the profile, etc... Sorry guys, but I just do not believe a normal 20 year old girl would be interested in a 50 year old guy other then for alternative motives :-)

Regarding age differences [20 vs 50+]
Focus on mutual interests, for her money, you sex.
Try new things, let her watch cartoons while you do her from behind. Meeting each other halfway is part of what makes a relationship fun.
Discuss uncertainties. Even if she is half your age [or more]you need to discuss which of her younger boyfriends she'll live with after your death.
Get to know her circle of friends, after all, there's an excellent chance of a dupla there if you play it right. Maybe even a festa!
Ignore the naysayers, regardless of how well the two of you get along you will be accused of robbing the cradle. Agree that you both will try and be unaffected by all the talk you will generate. [Is that his Daughter or Grandaughter!]
These common activities should keep you from dwelling on the age difference.

hehehe.....good points! But have you suffered through painfully quiet dinners or dates, or having a conversation with the girl that seems like you are extracting a tooth? Aye, not sure if doing her from behind while she is watching cartoons makes up for those very painful times.

LM,

" painfully quiet dinners, dates, or conversation"....sadly, not only have I experienced it, but watched some of my best wingmen in 'relationships' endure it! Having tried to point out that if I put them in a room together for 30 days, I would be very concerned about the results.

Life has many phases, and everyone is entitled to enjoy each phase. Problems arise when there are too many phase differences. I won't even mention educational differences. Basically too much age/educational difference is a recipe for disaster.

Hence, the point of this board. We forego relationships and exchange money for sex. Age doesn't matter. Education doesn't matter. Social class doesn't matter. Race doesn't matter. Gender, on the other hand, matters greatly.

Similar species is a plus as well

I believe GCL would take exception to the last post...but I agree.

Since GCL likes feet is there any truth to the rumor that he is getting married to a female Podiatrist and plans on becoming her assistant??

He wants to be her assistant only if she wears red shoes.

MM

CFK, your post beginning with regarding age differences is one of the funniest on this board in a while. I'll have to try the cartoon idea on my next trip.

When I moved down to Brazil last year to live for an extended time, I tried some of the local personal sites (Brazilcupid, Yahoo encontros). I did get a hot live-in girlfriend in Porto Alegre that way.

I also had a strange day in Rio when I met up with two girls off one of the sites. Had lunch with one, went to my apartment to change shirts before continuing on with her, and she jumped me for wild monkey sex. We went out for drinks and she went to the bathroom and never came back.

I felt soooooooooo used...and was pretty happy with that once I decided she hadn't been mugged or kidnapped.

The next girl turned out to be a Help regular "trying to go straight" but failed miserably when she wanted a cash donation as she hadn't found a job yet. Yeah, she was "trying" real hard. As LM said up above, girls living in Copa without jobs that have superhot pictures...probably not girlfriend material.

And to keep in line with the thread, I've had two serious Brazilian GFs I considered marrying and bringing back to the States. One was a GdP and the other wasn't, but in the end both had flaws too serious to ignore.

I go back and forth on the merits of relationships vs. p4p, and have gone back and forth. As Bwana said, however, most guys here have a clear preference. I respect that. They know what they are about here. I flip flop too much.

Actually, in my experience, despite what they profess on the boards, a lot of guys who come to Rio harbor a secret wish to find something more substantial. I don't know that I would say they are the majority, but there are certainly a lot of them. Coming to a p4p destination for a couple of weeks or even a month and looking for love, however, is just fucking dumb. Can it be done? Sure. You can probably find a needle in a haystack if you try hard enough, too.

That said, these days, I personally find p4p about as exciting as masturbation. I like picking girls up. And that doesn't mean I'm looking for anything serious by any means. The idea that having sex without paying automatically entangles you is complete and utter bullshit. Most women love sex just as much as any man, if not more. I have told girls, both implicitly and explicitly that I don't plan to stick around, that I don't want to be her boyfriend, even that I will fuck them and forget them, and if anything they're MORE excited by it rather than less. If you're consistent from start to finish in the way you present yourself, you will find women to be pretty damned agreeable.

I agree with Gibletpie.... why do you think so many of the 'Help' girls have been married to gringo's (many now divorced or seperated), are engaged (but still working), lived for long period's overseas with some European boyfriend?

Mongering and dating can become mixed for many.... even when you pay only for sex, it can turn out to be a multiple day date and end up in the monger gaining feelings for the girl. This is usually due to most guys desire to find that perfect beautiful dreamgirl that will fuck their brains out on a regular basis- the problem is that it is hard to take the GDP out of the girl and it is almost always just a bought fantasy that can turn sour very quickly.

I do agree only half way with Bwana's comments that "We forego relationships and exchange money for sex". This is true many times, but too many GDP's turn into some monger's girlfriend along the way for this to be entirely true - hence it is back to GP's comments above.

Then I forgot to mention one other angle many monger's tend to go - thinking their GDP girl "is different" or just a semi-pro, hence a regular that they can get involved with. Again, this typically 99% is bullshit as well.

Broman, she bolted while you were in a restaurant/pub/bar?

Yes, Cat. On Altantico. I was looking out at the street and was patiently waiting, then I figured she must be sick or have the runs or something, and then I finally went to check when I got worried. I've heard about girls bolting before the sex, but usually it is the guy bolting after.

And I'll echo the comments above. The GdP ex-girlfriend had too much GdP in her, in the end. You tell yourself it's different, and it may be, but when she keeps playing hooker games indefinitely, it's not different enough.

Gib, you are the man.