Dudes, I'm embarrassed to even bring this up. But recently I've been wondering if perhaps I'm starting to become a limp-dick, and so I ask: What are the REAL signs of erectile dysfunction?

Last night, I got lucky with a local stripper (hot petite negro girl, and kinky as hell!). And though I had no problems getting an initial erection after DATY and receiving a fairly quick BBBJ, I just couldn't keep it up during the session. It ended up being a "marathon" session of nearly an hour and a half, with me somwhere between semi-hard and semi-soft during most of that time. And in the end, I could not come to orgasm! The session ended simply because we were both worn out/bored/tired -- and that's a shitty way to end a sex session.

Granted, it was late at night (2:30 a.m.) and we were both drunk and very tired. But, still, in my younger days, maintaining a boner was never a problem regardless of the circumstances.

Earlier this week (Monday), I got lucky with another stripper -- an exotic-looking "Blackanese" (Negro/Japanese) woman. And same problem! Actually, it was worse...because although she gave decent head and got me very stiff, I got soft immediately after putting on the rubber. I couldn't even penetrate her! Granted, I was totally drunk and stoned -- and it's been over 10 years since I smoked pot -- so I'm thinking that had something to do with it. But, still, in my younger days this wouldn't have killed a boner.

Last month, in Thailand, I had the same problem on ocassions. It seems that, for me, I need to be TOTALLY turned on before I can perform. In other words, it seems that my cock needs to be "locked" in the hard-on position, and quick blowjobs followed with insincere sex just doesn't do it for me anymore. And in Thailand, short-time was exactly that -- quick foreplay followed by insincere sex (I dunno, kinda hard to explain what I'm trying to say)

On the other hand, on those ocassions where I've used Viagra, I've had NO PROBLEMS WHATSOEVER achieving and maintaining a rock-hard erection, and fucking my woman like a real man. Of course, that comes as no surprise, since that's what Viagra is SUPPOSED to do...but I'm just hoping I won't need to rely on Viagra for the rest of my life. After all, I'm only 38 years old and newly divorced!

I'm thinking that, perhaps, seeing women naked isn't much of a turn-on anymore (after all, I'm always hanging out at the strip clubs near my shop), which means it's more difficult for me to be turned on. And, perhaps, since I've recently had the greatest sex experiences of my life in Thailand, I'm thinking the local women don't much excite me anymore. So although I'm a horny bastard always thinking about sex, I have a more difficult time getting physically aroused. Does this make sense to anybody?

Any opinions or suggestions?

I would suggest that the chemical effect has a great deal to do with your problem. When you are very young alcohol is no problem . As you get older-- not necessarily " old " the effect of alcohol or certainly grass becomes magnified.
I doubt you have ED. Have you tried sex without alcohol ?? I had similar problems and therefore cut my drinking way back. NO problems now. I rarely drink in bars now. Of course I rarely go to bars now also.

Bummer !!

I understand what you mean by seeing a girl naked just doesn't do it anymore. I spent a good part of my life in an occupation where scantilly clad women of questionable moral virtue were always available. It had a profound effect on what gets me off now.

While most men like revealing provacative dress on a woman, I now get turned on by just the opposite. A lady lawyer in a blue suit and glasses drives me crazy. I'll take a librarian over a stripper any day. It just goes to show you that men like variety and after they get a lot of what they want, they want something else.

You may just need to give naughty girls a break and go after some "nice" girls. The challenge is what may get you excited now.

Just my 2 cents,
Sterling

I agree: Cut the alcohol out of the equation, go a couple days with no jerking off, and THEN see if there's a problem. There probably won't be. And even if there isn't, IMO there's nothing wrong with taking viagra to give you a woodie of STEEL even if you don't think you need it. Bite one in half and save the other for the next time you 'get lucky'.

There may be another issue at hand. I remember you mentioning in your report that you were not used to condoms because you were married for a long time and barebacked it with her. Its tough to get used to condoms as they give little to no feelings in your unit during sex. I remember you saying that the bareback session with the THai girl was the best of the trip and the sex felt better. This may be a dilemma for you and I suggest you try Durex or other thin condoms. I think I also remember that you have penis piercings or somewhere near there, this might also be a problem.

Guz, there could be so many things going on there. Pot and alcohol are known to cause problems. When you are physically tired, you might have problems. Anxiety. It may also be that you need the larger condom. Look at the condom discussion. I had that problem where I was ready to go, then comes the condom and there it goes. I tried the larger size and that problem went away. The regulars were too tight and it took a struggle for the girls to get the damn thing on. Try those, oh and yah... go three months without any type of sex. Ok, well maybe three days. If that doesn't work, go to that kind of DR. He will probably put your mind at ease and tell you that you're just an old fart now.
But seriously, just take some time off. It will probably correct itself.

Couple things to consider: if you smoke quit-- it greatly reduces blood flow and increases ED risk. Second, reduce alcohol intake to a reasonable degree. If your out of shape, do regular cardio work. All that will help biologically.

Psycologically, a possible cause for your symptoms may be performance anxiety related. For example, if you have a chick you date on a regular basis, I would guess that your erection would not be an issue. It is on the one-nighters. The yin/yang is out of whack. Not much you can do about that except take suppliments such as Viagra, Cialis, etc.

While mongering, we also engage in way more sex than out middle age systems are ready to cope with. The equalize the biology with our appetite, suppliments are the way to go.

As always, go see your doc and/or consult a urologist. At the very least you can cop a free 6 pack of trial Viagra

Wow...cool! Definitely words of encouragement! I certainly feel better already.

I don't smoke cigarettes anymore (I quit seven years ago, at the urging of my then fifth-grade daughter). And prior to last night, the last time I smoked weed was back in 1992, in the middle of Hurricane Iniki (I decided to get stoned while watching our islands getting devastated...it was a trip watching the trees being bent sideways, with debris flying all over the place!). But, yeah, I think I should cut down on the drinking. Only problem is, I'm kind of a shy and introverted guy, and I've relied on alcohol to get me to be the "party animal" that chicks seem to dig.

Larger condoms? Ha ha! Dude, you forget that I'm part-Filipino...we're not exactly the most well-endowed race! <grin> Naw, but really, perhaps I'll try that. I know that I tried the Trojan polyurethane (?) condom once, and it seemed to feel better than the Kimono brand that I've used before. "Thinking out of the box" -- no pun intended.

I also think anxiety may be a problem, especially since it seems that the only play I'm getting is just one-nighters (my modus operandi has been: "One, then done.") Sounds pathetic, but the longest relationships I've had in the past several months were repeat ST sessions with a couple girls in Thailand. Everything else has been one-night-stands.

Damn, I hate to say it but...perhaps it's time to find a (gulp!) real girlfriend?!?

Real girlfiend?

Bullshit!

You are in Hawaii and are halfway closer to prime pussy in Asia than many of us. You just need to head to Thailand, The Philippines and other prime destinations is SE Asia more often!

Guz,

Don't take my blurb about performance anxiety to mean go get a FT gal. Doc DonMarco recommends going to PI and Thailand as many times as possible with a healthy stock of Cialis (or Viagra if you must) in tow. I personally think Viagra is a little overkill and makes it hard to bust nut (vs. Cialis). Now that ED is on your mind (at least in the back of it), it will add more anxiety than usual. The suppliments will ensure you have a stiffy.

I bid you happy and safe screwing!

Guzy,

There is another option as well - remember, there's nothing wrong with a nice half-hour bareback blowjob with a nice finish in her mouth, on her chin, on her tits, whereever. I just spent a week in Rio and by the last afternoon, I was really content with just getting a nice, long BJ from one of my favs who likes me to finish on her tits.

Hey Guz.
First off, mixing pot and booze is a bad combo. Try smoking it without the alcohol.

> I got soft immediately after putting on the rubber
Same here! If it werenīt for Viagra and Cialis I wouldnīt have done much screwing in the past 10 years. My dingus normally shrivels at the sight of one.

If you need a "chemical splint" to help you along than go for it, and donīt worry if it truly is a case of ED or not. My advice, though, is to never tell a woman you use such things.

Your 38 years old?
Consider seeing a doctor. The smallest blood sample can be tested within a minute to determine if you have adult onset, Type 2, diabetes. It usually creeps into the picture around age 40. If so, you will probably be prescribed a pill like glucotrol to be taken daily.
Diabetes can be a hard-on killer.
You may have to resign yourself to taking the Vitamin V 30-45 minutes before doing your best work!
Best of luck!

PS: regarding a possible diabetes diagnosis

A common sympton of diabetes is ... "always being thirsty".
Since you have described a rather voracious thirst element that you address by drinking booze, you should consider a doctor's diagnosis since obviously water would be the best thirst quencher.
Leave the booze alone except for serious partying and buy bottled water to carry around in the car, at your work station, etc. to combat the effects of diabetes.
Hope this helps.

Well again. Given all of that, it seems the only logical thing to do is go to asia and get a long-time girl so you aren't restricted to 1 hour or half hour. You can go at your own pace and relax. Get a massage, the works. Pick a girl you are really comfortable with even if it means you go for less attractive, though you certainly want to stay away from ugly. That might kill it for good.
Good luck.

Any thoughts or experience with any of the "vitamins" helping you last longer. I don't have any problem getting it up and keeping it up,but lasting very long with these young girls is tough in your 50s. How you old farts like me do multiple holes and positions is beyond me. I know I don't enjoy shiatsu massage because it's way to rough and I'm real sensitive to touch, so I hate dentists and in the old days they always used extra to sedate me with questionable effects. I experimented with something I bought off another guy in a therma, but it just got me a little flushed and the blue ball feeling.
I didn't get a chance to try a second session because of of an aiplane that had to be caught. I remember that there were three things being used last May in Rio, and they were all different shapes. I haven't tried V because I don't need headaches.

I always just use willpower and hornyness to get through my mongering runs, but after a couple of days in a place like Rio, where you're doing 3-4 girls per day, you do run out of steam and need a little something to get you over the finish line.

This is not erectile disfunction - this is called busting too many nuts in too short a period of time and not slowing down to recharge. I don't think the boys in the medical-pharmecutical industry had us in mind when they come up with this stuff. "Hmm, we need a product that will help all the mongers do 28 girls in one week, instead of the 18 they should be able to do on their own."

Besides the "stream" issue, one reason I take suppliments is that my johnson really doesn't like he sight of condoms. I use em, but more often than not, I find it hard to keep wood. With Vitamin V or a combo of C/L this is a non-issue.

guzybear.. Its normal, dont get afraid.
its a sign of the times.. we are getting older by the minute, so our body at 40 and 50 and 60 may not perfrom to the way once we were 18..
forget the vitamins.. get plenty of sleep, relax, eat healty, eat lots of garlic... and you'll be on your way to stardom !!!!

....when you love your beer more than your hard-on, that is a sure sign of doom

Here's a reality

Things that can lead to erectile dysfunction:
1. Weight gain/lack of exercise
2. High Cholesterol
3. Reduced testosterone (Low-T)
4. High & Prolonged Stress
5. Alcohol
6. Smoking
7. High Blood Pressure
8. Lack of sleep or sleep apnea
9. Vitamin Deficiency
10. Fat, ugly or manly looking women

First, I would do all of the things listed in previous blogs that I could manage on my own and then see if there is any natural improvement by correcting my lifestyle (eat right, exercise, manage my weight, reduce alcohol and tobacco use).

If not, then before self-medicating using the incorrect dose of Vitamin V or C...talk to your doctor and request an appointment with a specialist (Endocrinologist - Boner Doctor).

The boner doctor will run some simple blood tests to make sure that your hormonal balances are correct for a man your age.

You want your doctor to cure the cause of erectile dysfunction rather than simply throw Viagra your way.

I noticed a change in my ability to sustain an erection all the way to a happy ending about a year or more ago. I found-out a year ago that I have sleep apnea. I had it for years and did not realize I had it. I slept, but not very well as I frequently woke-up at night. The lack of sleep threw my hormonal balance out of whack and my testosterone levels were low. I was also Vitamin D deficient (Northern latitudes - lack of sunlight). This was wearing at my ability to generate and maintain good wood naturally.

I now use a CPAP machine when I sleep at night to help keep me ventilated. Untreated the doctors told me I was getting perhaps 2-hours of sleep per night spanning several years. The lack of REM sleep caused my brain to shut down the production of growth hormones which led to lower testosterone levels.

With CPAP I am getting about 6-7 hours of sleep, sometimes more, sometimes less...but wow, what a difference. My doctors think I will eventually work my way back to 8-hours of restful sleep. Also, rather than simply give me testosterone patches which would sentence me to a life using the patch, my doctor prescribed Clomiphene Citrate to trick or simulate my brain to cause my body to produce more testosterone.

Clomiphene Citrate is a female fertility drug. But when men use it, it has a tendency to generate erotic thoughts (yep) which in-turn helps the natural production of testosterone.

I took the drug for about 6-months. Then my doctor cut my prescription in half for another 6-months. (I had great erotic thoughts). Today he took me off the medicine because we brought my testosterone numbers back-up into normal territory.

When I started his therapy he also gave me a prescription for Vitamin V. I had previously self-medicated on my own on previous trips down-range, but then I was taking 100mg tablets when I really needed only 1/2 a tablet to get good wood.

Anyway, I've got a bottle of Vitamin V I rarely use now. The CPAP machine is helping me get normal rest which in turn allows my brain to naturally produce the growth hormones I need to sustain normal Ops. I also take a multi-vitamin and Vitamin D.

Therefore, seek a natural cure rather than waste money on Vitamin V. Vitamin V is great if you need it, but normal and natural wood is free.

I hope you find a quick and easy cure. No man should be sentenced to a limp dick.

Good luck.

AJ