I've been with the same girl for 6 weeks now. Compared to my life in the last 40 months, having the same girl for 6 weeks in a row is a drastic change. I'm still horny as hell all the time (thank God for that), but I'm finding it difficult to cross the finish line.

Not nutting became an issue approximately 3 weeks into the 'relationship'. I think it had a direct correlation to her beginning to talk about 'the future' with me.

At first, I could easily overcome this mental blockage using the MPA or mental porn assist method. (Rumor has it that our resident Rio pornographer has mastered this art, but I won't speak for him). But as she continued to weave her intricate web designed to permanently encapsulate me into her life, I found it more and more difficult to freely shower her with my love.

Most recently, I have taken to some mental role playing in order to accomplish the task. You know, the neighbor's wife dressed in a seethrough teddy and asking for a cup of sugar, or the impudent collegiate exchange student seeking that elusive "A" from her English Professor... sigh...

It is almost as if I've been married. I've even found myself sneaking out for a quick Asian massage. I won't elaborate further, but that can be fraught with peril...

So... where to turn for help? Clearly there exists few forums such as this one. What other collection of men have enjoyed the talents of so many hot women? So I come to you seeking help with my problems:

1. After being with hundreds of young, fresh sexworkers in the past years, is it normal to get bored with the same ol' thing?

2. Am I still able to remain monogamous? or am I branded for life, forever following my turgid member as it leads me around like a divining rod?

3. How can I overcome this difficulty in ejaculating with the same woman?

Your advice is sincerely appreciated.

Sincerely Yours,
DeeG

Deeg

1. I think it's "normal" to get bored with the same old thing even if you've never been with a sexworker

2. Whither thou goest, I will follow.

3. The only thing that worked for me was divorce.

DG, I think it's time to face the fact that monogamy is an impossibility for you. I mean, haven't you realized that by now? You are doomed to follow your turgid member....and your prostate. (rimshot here)

DG, if you're "bored with the same old thing" after six weeks what might the future YEARS hold?

Do you think your mind is telling your body that you're getting too involved, and withholding your gentlemen's relish to put a damper on the relationship (and stop her talk about the future)?

Don't worry. You're perfectly normal. A dick may have only one eye but it is an all seeing eye. Lack of variety is the kiss of death for a man. I am convinced of it although it has taken a lot of years to finally understand. How do you know when the "feel" is gone? When you are the one who wants to have the lights out so you can better fantasize about someone else.

DG: I'll just address the health issue here.

Clarification: The problem is ejaculation only, not getting erection, not the quality of erection, not sustaining erection, right?

If so, are you taking Cialis or Viagra on a regular basis?

(Heavy sigh)
The above commentary give little hope that I will be able to devote myself to one person.

Sabio to answer your question, I take 10mg of Cialis every Friday morning, and no other medications beyond some herbal supplements. Everything else is working fine. Are you a doctor by chance?

DG,

Your questions would be more appropriately posted over on Turk's Relaciamento Serio thread as this is where serious relationship advice is handed out by sage relationship experts. The part of the board where you've posted is for men who bang loose women for money.

Oh and btw, you've been with the same woman for 6 weeks and you haven't offered her sister up to the board yet? You selfish bastard! I'll be updating my curriculum vitae shortly and forwarding it for your consideration.

Oh lowly grasshopper, it just gets worse. After a while, you start getting bored with them after three visits. Remember the 3X rule??

The hunt and adventure for ever fresh nubile young pussy becomes more of a quest than an adventure. Even though I got a regular twice weekly deal going, which is kinda new for me, and a former weenend regular in the states, I still cannot keep myself from going after something new that comes strolling by.

One martini is too many and three is not enough syndrome.

Now, get your ass back down here soon and lets crank up that libido again. I'll keep the lights on for ya!

ciao

DG:

I guess it must be the boredom factor, then.

No, I am not a doctor, but I play one on CH .

I recall reading that it's been scientifically shown that a male mammals (most of us included, I think) adjust the frequency, size, and potency of their ejaculate commensurate with how "exclusive" their sexual access to their partner is.

If a female is absent for a long period of time, spends time with competing males, or is unmonitored by her male partner, he will ejaculate more. If he is banging the same girl several times a day, every day, he will ejaculate less, or not at all.

In my own statistically significant data set of experiences with both monogamous and short term partners, I can attest that this finding is completely true. I have experienced identical symptoms as you.

My suggestion: let her sleep with other guys occasionally, or at least create a believable impression in your mind that it is a possibility. (And I stress "believable" ... your ejaculation reflex cannot be fooled.) Trust me, this works and it is the only solution to your/our problem.

Gee, since my access to my current partner (Rosie Palm and her five sisters) is lifelong, and permanent, and immediate, you'd think I wouldn't be able to cum in her at all, but I can spunk right up her wazoo whenever I want!

I am waiting for everyone to finish commenting so I can settle this....

the hamburger theory. hamburger may be your favorite meal. you can eat it meal after meal ,day after day, you can dress it in many different ways. but sooner or later you want steak and chicken and fish, maybe pizza or pasta. hence you go to rio or the like and never turn back.

Book_guy, Khoofoo explained your situation. Rosie and her sisters have sex with everyone. Maybe you don't know it, but your ejaculation reflex cannot be fooled....

Deeg,
The other night I did see something that might be of interest to you, it was on a HBO show called "Real Sex". This particular segment was about a guy who had designed a male sex doll and there were three girls who basically had their way with Mr Plastic. After they were done, the interviewer asked what could be improved on the doll. One of the girls said that he needed a realistic asshole, she wanted to take a strap-on to him. She thought that a lot of girls would like to do this to a guy. Have you talked to your namorada about this? Might help with your ejaculation issue. Oh, I am a nice guy and would be willing to meet the girlfriend's friend on my next trip through Miami.
SL

By Gcl on Monday, May 24, 2004 - 07:46 pm: Edit

I am waiting for everyone to finish commenting so I can settle this....

It's been over two months GCL. Is that sufficient time for you to polish your response?

DeeGwhoisatalossforhowtoimprovehismilkproductionindroughtconditions

Deeg I resisted commenting here because I am afraid I have some very bad news. You have developed a condition which is suffered by millions of men. I too have this very same condition--so you are not alone.

The fact is, any relationship you enter into has only 30 days to live. ALthough it is impossible to predict with exact accuracy how many days, I think 30 days is the average. After that you will become bored and unable to nut. Yes, you can extend this somewhat by banging her, closing your eyes and thinking of OTHER women. But the fact is, even that will become more and more difficult.

It will be heartbreaking at times, especially when you are with a girl you really like. But it wont matter, the relationship will be doomed.

ALthough your 'normal' friends will proclaim how much they envy your situation and the fact you get to bang so many hot chicks; in fact you will know you CANNOT ever stick with one girl very long. Consequently, if you continue to look for 'girlfriends' then you will be forever lonely because it cant happen. You sick bastard.

The treatment is as follows: You will fulfill your brain's need for companionship with male friends, or a dog, or your blow up doll which doesnt talk back. You will fulfill the needs of your laughingly small penis by banging 'NEW' pussy as often as possible.

I know there are more of us. I am considering starting a support group if anyone is interested. We will have strippers at group meetings. But we will only use first names. Entry fee is simple--you must admit you have a problem and are powerless over breasts and vagina.

There. Are you depressed or do you feel better?

GCL,

I'll be at the first meeting of the new support group. I think we should all admit we're powerless and hand our lives over to a "lower" power. If that lower power is bent over with her ass in the air, all the better.

I'll bring the donuts,
Sterling

I suffer from the same syndrome. I was involved with a very passive, beautiful Korean female and ran into that same problem. However, my symptoms started appearing about 60 days later. I wonder if this "new" pussy syndrome threshold decreases over time.

I'll bring the chocolates,
Howard69Stern

Howard69Stern brings up a very good point. I am really not in a position to speak for the rest of the world, but I remember when I lived in the US I went for months on several occasions before being unable to ejaculate while banging my girlfriend. It is possible that this condition is partially an effect of our environment. That is--in the US it could take months to grow weary, and in Brasil UP TO 30 days.

Bwana?

H, interesting you brought that up. Although Rio has replaced my preference for Korean girls (14 actual girlfriends in 7 years), I realized that at the conclusion of this 7-year stint, which began when I lived in Korea and ended about one hour after I returned home from my first trip to Rio, that I really had fucked the same pussy for 7 years. Different unit surrounding said pussy, but I rationalize that since every one of my girls was about the same - the standard Korean 20-24 year old, black hair, brown eyes, thin, 34-b tits, no ass, etc etc - that it really was just one singular experience.

Now, to change to a different matter, as a question for the post above, what if DG gets a blowup doll of a male dog and starts fucking it? Homosexual sex on inanimate objects?

I must admit I too am afflicted with this malady. I had been with the same girl friend for 6 months before I took my first trip to Rio. Never had any trouble nutting with her before the trip. But upon my return I found myself thinking about the Terma girls while fucking my girlfriend. It was only about 30 to 40 days and I was unable to nut with her at all. Another week and even vitamin V couldn’t get me up.

As far as the support group goes, I'm in. Sterlings got donuts, Howard the chocolates I'll bring Skol.

May I suggest a theme for the first meeting? And of course we need a catchy slogan." How about the topic "How to be objective on the virtues of monogamy after having fucked 100+women. (and one Quasi for SF-Hombre)" .

My problem has temporarily been solved as of yesterday. My 41 yo braziliera GF got braces, proving that there is in fact a god. The new metal in the mouth is making her cheeks hurt, so being the compassionate kinda guy I am, I bought her some rubber bands to put her hair up in pigtails "to keep the hair from hurting your cheeks". I've since had NO problems nutting, nor am I likely to as long as she wears the plaid skirts I'm buying her...

So let's see. How does one introduce himself to this support group?

Hello. My name is DeeG, and I'm a putaholic.

Wait - what the fuck am I saying? They say that the first step towards sobriety is recognizing that you have a problem. But I don't have a problem! It's these $*&%&# GRINGAS that have the problem.

During my (non-sexual) massage yesterday, my 38yo jewish single massuese commented on how irate she was when she went to a 5star hotel with her boyfriend and the breakfast staff gave him the WallStreet Journal to read but gave HER a copy of Better Homes and Gardens. The nerve! She was incensed. I asked her only one question. "How much did the room cost?" To which she replied "I don't know - he paid for everything". Rather than comment further, I simply let the matter go. But you all know what I was thinking.

Back to our topic - if wanting to bang hot Brazilians for $30USD is wrong, I don't want to be right.

Meeting adjourned. Let's all watch Sterling glaze his donuts.

Ah, the braces...does she, in at least that respect, bring back memories of a former favorita? That alone might account for your rejuvenation.

Bwana
The braces do in fact bring back fond memories of a happier time in my life, when a certain 'orally challenged' spinner caught my eye and captured my heart. Those were the good ol' days indeed.

But make no mistake about it - I will pursue any spinner that weighs in at less than 100lbs wearing braces and pigtails.

Hello. My name is DeeG. And I'm a spinnerholic. Were it not for Layne87 sponsoring me, I may have never found this program.

Thanks to you jackoffs, I had this problem BEFORE I started mongering. Here's my sad tale...or should that be tail.

I've been pretty lucky in the U.S. . Women way out of my league seem to take pity on me from time to time. A few years ago I was involved with a woman so gorgeous she should have been famous for it. I'm sure when we walked in to a room people just assumed I was really rich. It was a real mis-match.

Needless to say, nutting was NOT a problem. I couldn't believe my luck. I was just amazed I was in the room with this incredible beauty. Truthfully, she still blows away any garota I've seen...no contest.

The problem was the rules. American girls won't lick your balls, take it up the ass or shake it in your face. It's not the way they are programmed. So, we play by the rules.

Then, I saw this site and read about Termas. Young girls freely gargling your balls and then offering up their tender young asses for a vigorous buggering...oh....there is a GOD!!!!!!!

Just the knowledge of this ended my sex life in less than 30 days. My super hot girlfriend's standard issue sex lost the battle. I was on a plane to Rio shortly therafter.

On my first trip, I was doing VIPs festas with BwanaDik, GCL, DonGringo, Sandman, UWPhoto and many more. Dumping that girl for you ugly bastards was a banner move in the old Sterling household. You are all in my will.

Big sloppy kisses on your fat furry asses,
Sterling

Sterling. I think you just named our regular meeting place. We will hold the formal meetings between rounds of girls at Vips. Gotta have something to do while recovering...he he!

Sandman,

Great idea! Let's have the first meeting the week of the 22nd. You, Coffee_Maker, GCL, SFHombre and myself can get this worthy organization underway.

Of course, we'll raise a Skol to DG, Bwana and Howard69Stern as members in absentia. In fact, we can do the Bwana toast just as the Police helicopter hovers just off the balcony to get a better look at the debauchery.

On the other hand, we can just hire somebody to jabber incessantly and play some lame 80's white boy music (Brian Adams) on a blown out boombox to achieve the illusion that DG is in the room.

See you guys soon,
Sterling

That's Bryan Adams, a noted Canadian vocalist that the Cuban girls all love. I notice the garotas weren't quite as impressed however. Oh, and GCL has a carbon copy of my gigbag, complete with cheesy speakers and all.

I'm considering getting a bad blonde dyejob, and a clip-on earring. Do you think that'll make me more hip?

Please, let me know when you plan this meeting. I will, in a show of solidarity, hang my bare ass out my office window.

You bunch of unrepentant degenerates! I wish I could be there. Guess we'll have another meeting in late Sept. Here's hoping that DeeG breaks free from the shackles by then.

I'm with Sterling on the 'rules' aspect of the problem. My GF is pretty and the sex is good, but knowing all the work I have to do in order to nut just kills me.

When I'm in a romantic mood, there is not a problem with the candles and massages before hand. However when I'm looking for a quick one, I still have to do a lot of work - DATY every time (doesn't matter if she's been out all day in the hot sun...).

I think that this is the biggest issue that I have with the whole situation. When I want to be romantic and lovingly, I love having a GF, but when I'm looking for a quickie or something wild, I itch for garotas. It is just too much damn work and pain in the ass to have sex in the States.

Wow, this board and the trips I've taken have deffinatly affected me, I never thought I would be bitching about GF sex

Fellow members of the board, I bring you good news. It's been 7 years since I wrote this post, during which time I have gone from Greco-Roman feasts abroad - to Gringa-Induced famine here in the US of A.

Fact: this hombre either abstained or was monogamous for pretty much all of 2011.

During that time, you'll be pleased to know I'm back to nutting faster than a 12 year old with his first Playboy

Wistfully, I remain
Deeg

Is nutting fast a good thing?

Granted, it beats not nutting at all, but it seems there is a happy medium, especially when you are paying to play.

Sounds like the original minute man.



MM

Bwana writes 'Is nutting fast a good thing? "

The original post referred to my inability to nut with an attractive 'age appropriate' GF here in USA - who obviously couldn't compare to the 100's of young hotties I was bangin at the time.

You'll be pleased to know that I am able to nut at the appropriate time with my current 'age appropriate' Brasileira in spite of her being in her mid 40's

But it's all right now, I learned my lesson well.
You see, ya can't please everyone, so ya got to please yourself


- R. Nelson

Never thought I'd see the day when Don Gringo brags about being monogamous for a year.

It was one of his senior moment dreams.

More Saki it was a year of great enlightenment, which I may post about someday.

Does she have a daughter over the age of 18?

Nutting at the "appropriate time" is a far cry from "nutting faster than a 12 year old with his first Playboy."

Bwana you got a point. Given the choice between struggling to nut versus fighting to hold back, I'll take the latter!

Sometimes I win the fight, and then there's times when she gets my nut in under 30 seconds. They don't all hafta be 18-22 yo...

Faster than a 12 year old with his first Playboy in a bathroom stall in a Brazilian airport waiting to be deported because their visa had expired???

Murasaki, be nice to GCL. He has a cognitive disability