Posted by TJResearcher on March 26, 2001 at 22:56:19:
In Reply to: Re: Explorer = Mr. TJResearcher? posted by raiders on March 26, 2001 at 21:42:38:
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Raiders: I'm going to try to address your eariler post before I leave (since I'm an insomniac anyway). you asked if i had "absolutely zero interest in being with the opposite sex", do you mean fucking? or hanging out with? they are two different things. The answer is yes, no - I love to hang out with men and women. you said you didnt believe that I have "absolutely zero interest in other men that you see, that want to touch you, ask you to dance, to drink, to socialize, to catch a show, to take a walk on the beach, go out to dinner or perhaps go bar hopping?" There is no reason to believe it. I never said I don't go out, dance, drink, socialize, watch movies, walk on the beach, go to dinner, and go bar hopping. In fact, I've done all of the above at least once since I've been here. My hubbie doesn't read this board, but that doesn't mean I'm "trying to play it safe so that he 'thinks' his S.O. is being true to him and that you are only conducting your business in the zone as that, strickly business without any recreation envolvement?" He knows everything I do, I talk to him every day. He knows me, and trusts me, and wants me to be happy. He has lived with me for almost 14 years, and I'm still in love with HIM. He is old enough to know that I have to be able to live my life and make my own mistakes. In fact, that is one of the best things about him. A month really isn't that long to not have sex. What we miss is cuddling, talking, competing in jeopardy, going out to movies together, cuddling, and did I mention cuddling? The nice thing is I can talk for free with him from my computer, EVERY DAY. We are both willing to sacrifice so we can buy a house and have a child one day, comfortably.... Regarding crotchgrabbing in my trip report, I'm only guessing that guy was "checking the merchandise", somehow that makes sense more than him picking up on a woman in a gay bar. Unless he's bi - but anyway, as womanly as I am, I've seen a lot of transvestites on TV and in person that are as womanly as I am. Sometimes you can tell (ick!) and sometimes you just have to go wow! I don't really "worry about consuming too many tacos", its my friend who is the bulemic/anorexic trying to live up to a standard. I'm just me. Also, I know some guys love gorditas, my hubbie and all my male friends love me! Regarding a "hidden agenda of a certain desire towards thinking women are attractive": You said you have known your "share of women and can't think of when they have ever talked about other women being attractive, contrar, the women tend to act jealous of another girl as opposed to identifying that she is attractive." I've not really seen that. Maybe girls play down other girls in front of other gusy... Not that women don't make disparaging comments about other women, they can and do, but most of the women I know (self-selection perhaps?) are more honest than that. Any girl who puts another girl down sees her as a threat. Why does she perceive her as a threat? Because she sees the girl as ATTRACTIVE. She may not admit it, but if she didn't feel that way she wouldn't think twice. I didn't understand the next statement: "Yet perhaps your perception of your research leads you to to make those type of judgements without having any inner emotions or feelings towards the same sex." I do have emotions and feelings towards the same sex, some of my best friends are girls and my first sexual playmates were also girls, I even played around as a teenager for fun with girls who had crushes on me. I guess I don't mean what kind of judgements you were referring to... But I don't really see myself as abnormal, just liberated, honest, and preferentialy heterosexual. I have you never been a commercial sex worker, or a dancer, nor have I even worked as a waitress or bartender. But I have had friends who have done all of the above, I've also known people who I didn't like very much who have done all of the above. Being solicited/manipulated/lied to constantly for sex while hitchhiking, partying, or just trying to enjoy my adolescent life, however, made me VERY aware of my worth as a sexual object. I left home at age 14 and lived with a boyfriend, and then my husband, and if you think I don't understand that relationships are also an economic/sexual exchange (albeit a non-commercialized, informal, and longer-term arrangement) you are mistaken. So in a way, yes I was brought back "full circle to discover and research this type of work." We'll call this part one, and leave the rest of my answers for when I return from the Yucatan. I'm now sufficiently exhausted and am going to sleepies! |
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