Re: my letter to raiders....ditto to TJResearcher ;-)

Posted by raiders on March 27, 2001 at 00:28:35:

In Reply to: my letter to raiders. posted by TJResearcher on March 26, 2001 at 22:56:19:

Very interesting feedback. I have to admit though, your 14 years of living with your husband is extremely interesting. If I remember correctly, you are in your late 20's meaning at age 15 you had him as your boyfriend, yet to live with him he must have been in the position to already have gone thru college, establish himself in the community as a working individual and perhaps was making a good income to support himself and you while the courtship was leading towards marriage. Very lucky guy because many women would have chosen to experience life 'alone' before deciding to settle down thus eliminating alot of 'growing pains' and mistakes (early pregnancy, stds, welfare, fatal attraction boyfriends, jealous lovers, drug experimentation, etc..etc... Your husband must and I repeat MUST have complete trust in you. And to me, that is the main nucleus that holds a foundation of a relationship, without it, it turns into a semi-permiable membrane that will disolve and erode as time goes by. I also see that he allows you to be you and what you want to be, that is how I am also, if you don't allow the person to be who they are and what they want to do (as long as its not destructive to the relationship), then by all means let them prosper, otherwise if smothering is a continued display of emotion, again this also will lead to complications of a relationship. TJR, you don't have to tell us how blissful you are in your relationship with your man, its obvious that you are 100% truely in love with him and from what you have said, he is 100% in love with you. My questions about you saying that you felt some women were attractive was that in my 'research ;-), the women I know tend to act jealous. Perhaps if I had dated someone like you in your profession who had a analytical mind to differenciate 'a beautiful women' and 'jealousy', perhaps I would then have been exposed to the type of scientific humanistic observation. Do you have a sister ;-). I'll admit that when you first appeared on this message board, I was very skeptic, I had both eye brows raised, and thought, just what on earth is this board leading to??? Is this a scientific observation online colaboration of minds meeting to gather information on Tijuana hookers??? And just who is the TJR, is this a 13 year old conducting a class project and trying to pass herself as an adult? Did she infiltrate into our male boudries with the simple use of a computer account and did she fool the administrator as to her actual age? Or was this some mad diobiolical work of a scorned wife bent on frustration and destruction of turning this forum into an arena where she can obtain information from a cheating husband or was this all a joke? You have to realize that anyone can pass themselves off as who ever they claim they want to be, its just a matter of 'us' believing them, no credential, no written info, cleaver web sites will justify our judgments. So I give you credit for allowing yourself to rationalize your 'answers' and even answer the most obscure questions we have asked, and even to laugh at some of the negative responces that were sent directly to you. I guess by now, you know its part of the territory of water that you are treading on ;-). I'll be the first to admit that once you are finished with your research, and have left this site, i'll very much miss having a womens intellectual conversation, and exchange of minds, ideas, values, theories, paradyn thoughts, perception of life, of societies, lifes experiences. Now don't get me wrong, i'm still not 100% convienced you are who you say you are yet at least the pengylum is swinging more towards positive then negative. I'm a firm believer that belief is gathered through live observation and not hypothesis, meaning we would have to met, perhaps go on a date, out to lunch or dinner, I would ask you questions, gather my beliefs of what you are saying is true, much like the research you are doing yet in a totally different environment. The based on my studies, findings, observation, questionares, then and only then would I be able to make a conclusive assessment on my thoughts of you. Anyways, thanks for answering some of my questions, it kind of shows that you are at least being truthful with your words and actions and that you are not only soliciting information from us yet you are giving information about you yourself which makes me feel more comfortable about your implications regarding your research material. Have a great trip in the Yukatan, yet if you really want to visit an extremely beautiful city, check out San Cristibol and Pelenque Pyrmids, truely a site to see in regards to the Mayan civilzation yet bring your visa gold, kind of expensive and they don't accept American express. Raiders.

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